How do I enjoy being social, instead of feeling like it's a hassle?

Ok, well this question is a little complicated for me, b/c I'm not really anti-social. I'm really good at interacting people, entertaining people, getting along with people, relating to people, etc. etc. Not only that, but if I go out with people I usually have fun, at least for a while.



My problem is that I usually don't want to go out in the first place. Every day after work I just go home and relax, I feel tired and like it would take way too much effort to spend time with my friends. And even if someone does convince me to go out, after I've been out for a while with anyone I just want some alone time or I get SO irritable! I know I should want to spend time with people more, but I don't.



But the catch (and main reason I'm asking this question) is I wind up feeling SO lonely sometimes. I feel almost like I want to share things with people, just not with anyone I know. Which is ridiculous because I have a lot of friends (I just graduated college btw).



Well, if you followed all that please help me out here. How do I start feeling less like going out/hanging out with my friends is a big hassle, and more like I want to do it? Do you think it's just my personality, or my friends, or my freaking stressful life, or a combination of those? And how do I get over it?



Thanks! And if you need more details I will give them. :)How do I enjoy being social, instead of feeling like it's a hassle?
I feel the same way. We are ';introverts';. That title is usually misunderstood to mean something bad, but all it means is we get our energy from alone time. (Extroverts get their energy from being around others). Nothing wrong with either one. However, even us introverts need a social life too. You just need to let your friends know that you need x amount of alone time before you are ready to go out. Don't be ashamed to let them know. I only go out when I feel like the ';bother'; is worth it...I only do the things I really feel motivated to do so when I am out I enjoy it and don't wish I was home.How do I enjoy being social, instead of feeling like it's a hassle?
Don't try to be liked, just be who you are, and if your friends are TRUE friends, they'll stay the same way. :)
look for people who think like you.
you hate having to live your life for intruders.
Well for one, we think alike! =)

Honestly, in my school I'm loud and I hang around with a lot of people but that's just a front I put up. When I'm at my house, I prefer to be just alone. Deep down I'm thinker. A deep thinker at that. I observe everything around me... I get really shy around people who are different from me so I just act like I don't give a ****.

I don't think u can change the way u feel.. It's just the way u are! How about asking them about doing something you like!
It's just your introverted personality. You just need to tell your friends you need to be alone sometimes. As for the loneliness thing, find one person you really trust and who understands you. A best friend.
sounds like it is your personality and maybe you're just at a stage in your life where you just want to stay home and hang out. have your friends over and hang out and you won't have to deal with a big crowd and spending money. even if it's only 1-2. don't feel bad or that you have to change it's just who you are so give this a try and see if you like that.