Sunday, November 21, 2010

How do you deal with homosexual/bisexual bashing people if you must interact with them on a daily basis?

Usually a person would just remove themselves from a situation with homosexual or bisexual hating or bashing people. But if you are at school, work, or home, how can you deal with people and situations if you have no choice but to interact with them?

For instance, a gay hating teacher or classmates. Or having a mother who denounces it and family who bashes it?How do you deal with homosexual/bisexual bashing people if you must interact with them on a daily basis?
Everyone deals with it differently. Some are confrontational and will speak up against bigotry to anyone who bashes, and some are scared that they might meet with disapproval if they did that. Which are you?How do you deal with homosexual/bisexual bashing people if you must interact with them on a daily basis?
I wouldnt know about family but at school I just would kiss a guy more if they try to hurt me I know where to kick.
If it was a teacher I wouldn't shut up until I got a written apology, you do have rights you know. And I am speaking from personal experiences here.
As an openly gay man I deal with this everyday. It really does get to you after awhile but you just have to let it go. I personally laugh about it when people get in my face about being gay.



What gives hate speech its power is when people get rilled up and angry. If you choose not to get enraged by it and use hate speech back it eventually neutralizes itself.



I can tell you at my work quite a few people were major bigots. I never let them get to me and joked about being gay. Those people aren't a problem and don't give me **** anymore.
I hate how the kid that are homophobic at me never get called out on it. They never get in trouble for it and I have to stand them everyday. How can I be friends with people like that.
Usually, people like that are pretty wound up. I like to find the one button to press that will make them go INSANE (as in from 0 to Bit** in .05 seconds) and then press it. Then, I casually walk away as they prove to everybody else how depraved they are.



Its loads of fun for everyone.

Why can't I ever get past small talk when interacting with people?

I find most of the people around my age (being 17) to be somewhat immature, and I can't seem to relate to them at all. I can't stand when I see other guys humping trees, or laughing their asses off at some ';genitalia song';. I have very few ';real'; friends because of it, and I think its because I probably come across as a bit boring to them. I get a long with people fine, but I can never seem to get past small talk for some reason. I know I can offer a lot in a friendship, but it's starting to worry me how I can never really have a real ';conversation'; with someone without being completely uncomfortable or them detecting my fakeness.Why can't I ever get past small talk when interacting with people?
I'm also 17. Same boat as you. I think people my age are immature and think having a good time is through pathetic things like making dirty jokes etc. I think it's pathetic. I'm a bit more mature than that, anyway.



I think it also has to do with being an introvert. I am assuming you, the 17-year-old above me %26amp; me are all introverts. We'd rather communicate with people that understand us and acknowledge who we are on a personal level, than superficially.



I guess we just find it hard to relate to people that are like that. I seem to come off as 'boring' as well, because I don't enjoy interacting with people that are just rude and have a big mouth. LOL. But I have some close friends. I'm alright with 'small talk'. I can handle it. I just talk about the school subject i.e. HSC and I start a good conver. from there.



Also I'm Christian, which makes it harder. I don't go to pathetic Under 18 parties etc. It's so secular. I'd rather find good Christian friends that are socialable and easy to talk to. :)Why can't I ever get past small talk when interacting with people?
Here's a good book for you to check out



Leil Lowndes - How to talk to anyone
u shud maybe just try talking to someone like the person u treally are,who knows maybe the other person might be feeling and doing the same as u.so be urself!
You can start by sharing what you truly feel, and what your interests are. You can e-mail me if you want and start there, tell me what you really feel, what you really like.
I can relate, definitely. I'm 17 as well, and I agree, most people our age are very immature. I have a lot of older friends, and almost no friends my age because I just think they're stupid, frankly (most of them). I'm shy, unfortunately, so I can never seem to get past small talk as well. I get really uncomfortable, like you, and it almost feels like my brain freezes in a conversation because I can't think of something else to say.

Why can't I ever get past small talk when interacting with people?

I find most of the people around my age (being 17) to be somewhat immature, and I can't seem to relate to them at all. I can't stand when I see other guys humping trees, or laughing their asses off at some ';genitalia song';. I have very few ';real'; friends because of it, and I think its because I probably come across as a bit boring to them. I get a long with people fine, but I can never seem to get past small talk for some reason. I know I can offer a lot in a friendship, but it's starting to worry me how I can never really have a real ';conversation'; with someone without being completely uncomfortable or them detecting my fakeness.Why can't I ever get past small talk when interacting with people?
.Best to stick to your own principles.Trying to go with the flow would be fake.People whose brains are below their belly button,aren't the best of conversationalists anyway

How different is your personality in ';Real life'; towards ';Real people'; as opposed to on here?

and why you think this is?



how much of it has to do with the language and culture of the people you interact with?



and which culture, people do you think have the MOST DIFFICULT time relating and talking ';Being themselves'; with one another and why and how you think this is?



how much of the time do you think the person you are talking to in real life is more ';STYLE'; than actual conversing , communication or SUBSTANCE?..lol



please explain why and how this is true of your area, if wish to explain.



btw, which area of the world you are? (if dont mind sharing)



thanks for your answers!How different is your personality in ';Real life'; towards ';Real people'; as opposed to on here?
...I was hooked at the question itself, then I read the rest and thought, 'wut?'



But I'll give it a bash.



I don't act terribly different on the internet than I do in real life. Of course, there's a lot more ';erm';, ';aah'; and ';like'; in my real life speech! But I tend to speak my mind both via internet and in real life.



In real life, style I suppose conveys the meaning more. I could be saying something like ';I don't think that hat suits you very well.'; Over internet, I sounds rather blunt and impolite, but not malicious and nasty. In real life, facial expression, gesture and all manner of vocal tones, pitches, paces, etc. come into play, to show that, again, I don't mwan what I say in a serious and hurtful way.



tl:dr In real life and over internet I say what I think. I act the same in both places.

How to stop talking to someone?

I need to stop talking and i can't i am always talking about something. I just wanna stop interacting with people altogether but how can i go about doing that?How to stop talking to someone?
don't call people. dont return calls. keep yourself busy that way you won't get bored and want to call someone. If someone calls you do not answer. and if someone tries to talk to you in person then keep it short. If you see someone near by then walk the other way.How to stop talking to someone?
MY solution: Easy say nothing



My friends solution: Take out your voicebox and nail it to a tree
find someone else to talk to. or listen to music all the time.
i dont always want to talk myself, especially at work, just dont talk and people will lose interested in interacting with you, just dont complain when you need people and theyre not there for you cause you didnt want to interact with them
No need to stop interacting, just practice being a good listener.
try occupying yourself with something i do that and i talk alot it helps you to stop talking or maybe you need to find your own place to be in when you do want to talk or you can put atape over your mouth lol
But how come? You are veryy lucky you can talk. some people have problems talking. we are blessed to have a voice.

Sometimes I know it is hard becsaue it is like you are always running your mouth. but people like it when other people have things to talk about, because then they can include themselves in a conversation. Keep talking. You just might be helping people out.

IF you are not old enough yet, you should consider doing something that involves a lot of talking as a perfession. You would do greatt....



Dont be annoyed with yourself. If you really want to cut it down. speak when something REALLY interests you.
Has someone you respect told you that you talk too much? Have people begun to avoid you because you just chatter on and on? If that's the case, they're probably right.



I don't know that you actually have to quit talking to people. Maybe you need to practice good habits.



Learn to say ';what do you think?'; and really listen to what the other person has to day. Don't spend the whole time they're talking to think of what you're going to say next.



Another good practice is to say ';you must have an opinion about this -- what is it?';



Just a couple things. You can come up with others.
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  • How do you handle obnoxious co-workers?

    They run around complaining all the time to anyone, acting like everyone here should serve them. Interact with people using blunt comments.



    Since this is where I make my money, I do my best to ignore and not make a scene but sometimes it is very hard to do so.



    Grrrrrrr....How do you handle obnoxious co-workers?
    Yeah, you have the right idea-ignore them. If they come to your desk don't even look up. And pray he isn't the bosses son.How do you handle obnoxious co-workers?
    Make sly comments to them that make them feel like idiots.
    Do what I do. Get some earplugs and tune them out and listen to some music. Hopefully, your job allows you to do that.
    Venting on Q%26amp;A is good for you. At work, do you job well and keep your mouth shut. They will probably get theirs in the end.
    I encounter the same thing! Sometimes I have just boldly said: ';Stop Complaining'; and they usually say something like, ';Yeah, I know, I always complain.'; Or, if they are complaining to you, don't comment; just change the subject - they'll get the message sooner than later. We have a secretary in our dept. who complains about everything from not having ice cream socials (can you imagine!) to not being invited to bosses' cocktail happy hours. Frankly, I don't want to go. She complains about her boss emailing her a letter in an email to put into a letter format and print it out! She says ';Why can't he do that!'; It's your job!!! Another approach would be: if you sense they are about to complain, say: ';NO COMPLAINTS, ONLY POSITIVES!'; That should work. Let me know. Thanks.
    I ignore them. My iPod is very helpful.
    ~~~Some Guy, trip them when they walk past you. It's funny.~~~

    Need insight into behavior problems for rescue dog?

    I really want to adopt a small chihuahua mix dog from a local rescue, but I'm not sure how much of the dog's behavior can be shaped or altered with patience and training, and how much is the nature of the breed. The dog is very energetic and doesn't show much interest in interacting with people. Not hostile, just indifferent. Dog is one year old and has had no socialization with people. Is it unrealistic for me to hope that the dog might calm down with time and training? I have not adopted the dog yet.Need insight into behavior problems for rescue dog?
    You can try to work with this dog, but it will take training, time and patience. There is no way to know how far you can get with it. The dog may be afraid of people so seems indifferent. Scared dogs will often zone out or shut down rather than run away or growl. They seem nicer, but they can be just as scared. Please visit this site to learn how to work with this dog should you decide to get her.



    The page on games %26amp; exercises has good tips for how to start off with her.



    www.fearfuldogs.comNeed insight into behavior problems for rescue dog?
    No. I rescued a Siberian Husky, at the age of 1.5. She had been beaten, and lived in a crate all her life. She didn't wag her tail, give kisses, or even know her name when I bought her from the guy, it took me a year to teach her how to give her paw. (Giving the paw is a trust symbol.) It is going to take a lot of time, and the dog may never be normal again, but what you can do is try to make sure the dog has a good life. Your best bet would be to enroll in some obedience classes if you do decide to adopt. But not for the first few weeks, just focus on praise, give the dog a treat just for looking at you in the eyes, teach the come command first by just holding out a piece of food, backing up and saying ';come'; Then work on sit, don't teach the down until the dog has become comfortable with you, because downing a dog is a submissive position.
    We have 2 Chihuahuas and they r great... a 1 yr old is still a puppy and will not out grow that until they are about 3ish when they are more full grown. Between 6 months and 1 yr is a good time to start a more formal training. Pet-Smart has a really good training class' for all ages.. The dog maybe distant until they get use to you and the surroundings and they determine what their territory is.. being a dog from a shelter they may have been abused or at least hit for something and are afraid yet til they get to know you and trust you...you just need to love them and re insure them they are wanted and they belong. Speak nicely but firm and always reward them for good acts and treat them with an extra goody for love... Good luck

    I need a good sociology research topic!?

    I need a good sociology research topic! Sociology is how people interact with people. I have to form a testable question, make an hypothesis, and gather my data (through survey, experiment, or observation). I'm thinking of doing research on how appearance matters in society, but I don't know how detailed or what direction to go with it. Help!I need a good sociology research topic!?
    I have a suggestion for something that is very ';doable'; and related to your general theme. How about the messages that are prevalent in the media that are focused on teen and pre-teen females? You generate a hypothesis (your job!), and then use content analysis to examine the messages in varied magazines or other media that cater to the teen/pre-teen female population.I need a good sociology research topic!?
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    Should parents be more concerned about how much video games their kids play?

    I see many kids that play video games all the time instead of actually getting out of the house and interacting with people... And this starts when kids are very young. Shouldn't parents get their kids to get out of the house moreShould parents be more concerned about how much video games their kids play?
    My friends and family and I have always been addicted to games (whether they are board games, or puzzles, or video games...) and the only thing I can tell is, if it is an outlet, let them do it! Would you rather someone be depressed all the time, or play video games. Some people like being anti-social (Hell I was antisocial for most of my life and now I never meet a stranger...)



    The main thing is, if they want to get out and do something, they will. If they don't, let them play. Eventually someone is going to have to change. See I don't have a problem with video games because we have always been better off playing the games (than being outside and drinking and doing drugs and having sex like most other kids when they were our age!)



    And if anything, we learned strategies and tactics and skills that helped us later in life.

    'Professor of Computer Science, Maria Klavee feels video games, if not too violent, can ';offer some real opportunities for puzzle solving, strategic and critical thinking';. But she adds that it's important that video and computer games are played in moderation. Klavee says parents should ';provide a selection of activities, not just the ones that have the most action or are addictive. Choose some that involve problem solving or good story lines. Also aim for a balance in your child's life. Sports are important, reading's important. Just think of computer games as one more component in a child's exploration of what's out there in society.';'(Source 2)



    ';Video and computer games will continue to be an exciting and growing part of children's media diets. With so many good games available for children and youth, it is unfortunate that so much attention has to be paid to games which are inappropriate for all youth and harmful to some. As long as children have easy access to these games, then policy debates will continue. Perhaps those debates will be moot in the near future as both the industry and parents make sure that the children and youth of America are sold games that entertain and benefit them.'; (Source 1)





    I wouldn't say it's completely healthy to play these video games; but at the same time, you can learn a lot from playing a game long enough.



    I hope this has helped you.Should parents be more concerned about how much video games their kids play?
    mhm im addicted to many video games and no one does anything about it i need help!
    Yes they should, but at the same time, the more you tell a kid not to do something, the more they want to do it. It's a double edged sword. If you don't let your kid do what they want, they will over compensate when they move out and make decisions for themselves. Instead, parents should ENCOURAGE physical activity, simply by getting out there with them.
    Yes, I agree that parents should monitor how long their children should play video games, as well as what video games they are playing. I think it's worse if parents let their 5 year-old play a shooting game for one-hour a day rather than an educational game for five-hours.
    Yep, My brother is a prime example.

    He's is a VERY smart kid but is failing school because he doesn't do his homework and stays up until all hours of the night playing his Xbox, therefore is too tire to concentrate the next day.

    His friends come over and ask him to come skating an he's always gt an excuse like his skateboard is broken, or he has a sore knee...pathetic.
    I'm a gamer myself. I think MMOs are a good social outlet and cathartic for a lot of teenaged kids that otherwise would never voluntarily interact with their peers. there are pros and cons to gaming, of course, but nothing on a computer should be done without parental knowledge and consent. I wouldn't put a pc or console in a kid's own room until they're at least 15. until then, playing in a public area will keep them on the straight and narrow



    also, there is no evidence to show that playing violent games leads to violence in ';real'; interactions with people. violent games are fine with me, so long as there is no blurring of what is real and acceptable in the game vs life itself.
    Yes, I think parents should be more concerned about how much their children play video games. If kids do not acquire certain social skills and make certain social mistakes when they are younger, it is much harder and much more painful to complete those tasks when they are older.
    Moderation is what I preach, not that I have to anymore, it's not concerns over video games, it's more Facebook, IM and with me Y/A. My kids are active, they love the outdoors, and they are also very much into hibernating in their rooms and going at it with the keyboard. Video games, yeah a bit different, solitary....no stimuli outside of that monitor and joy stick, but it is incredible stimuli! Great for the brain! Great for the reflexes! If there is any question as to a diagnosis of ADHD my belief is that....if a kid can sit in front of a video game for an hour or more there is no problem with attention...bottom line, no drugs needed, just discipline. When do you become concerned? My belief is when they prefer to stay at home and play alone given a choice to play with others, or become overweight from inactivity (hopefully before that) or when they can not seem to focus on important things, priorities (like now, when I should be in bed getting a good night sleep for work tomorrow am), that's when I would become concerned. What would I do, honestly if I thought it was a huge problem...take the whole console, joy sticks, games and all, to the nearest ';boys and girls club'; or orphanage for someone else to enjoy.
    Yes, parents should be more concerned about how much video games their kids play. I am not a fan for any electronic games and TV. My kids will be lucky if they can have 2 hours TV/week. Video games are rewards after examination time. I keep them entertain with kids activities most of the time. In fact, they have get used to this lifestyle to the extend that the TV is never on and there is no video game gadget in our house. I do allow them to play educational games on PC only occasionally....during holidays and again, it is limited to not more than 2 hours.

    I would love to be an animal expert =D?

    I have lots of information on animals and I just love watching tv shows and how people interact with them. Its so inspiring. I was thinking of majoring in zoology but Im having trouble to deicde what to do after that. Please help!?I would love to be an animal expert =D?
    Excellent questions, beacuse I too want to be a zoologist and I found some websites that should help you...

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    4.http://www.lubbockisd.org/ironsfcs/caree鈥?/a>I would love to be an animal expert =D?
    you could work for a private non-profit or at a rehabilitation center. there are many internship opps out there too.



    and let me tell you - volunteering is the best way to get your foot in the door. That's how you get to do really cool things - i've banded baby bald eagles and babysat baby musk ox - all that counts for experience on a resume. And people always need the help!

    Why do people choose to interact in a sexual way with animals how does it help them?

    I once read a short story about how a guy was researching Chimpanzees, then one day, i guess he .. got.. interesting in a female Chimp, and just took off his pants.. and ,well, you know.



    I think that they are disgusting pigs, looking for an easy way to torture that animal, and ';pleasure'; themselvesWhy do people choose to interact in a sexual way with animals how does it help them?
    1) Because they're perverted and predatorial.

    2) It doesn't.Why do people choose to interact in a sexual way with animals how does it help them?
    Because they are SICK, lonely people!
    AHHHHHHH WTH????
    Because they have no lives, and can't get any from humans -- so they turn to helpless animals.

    Help whom? The human? It doesn't. Other than giving their hand a break.
    yuck, I don't have any idea

    How can I not feel so emotionless as an adult?

    I'm not depressed or anything, but I know as a kid and as a teenager I felt so alive and so full of emotion, but as an adult, I feel so lifeless and emotionless. I'm tired all the time, feel worn out, every day is the same just get up and go to work then rinse and repeat. I have no interest in what people have to say. When talking to people I am forcing myself to talk when it's my turn and laugh when appropriate but I am so disinterested in interacting with people it's so boring. I feel zero emotion, I do not feel alive at all. Like I said, I'm not depressed or anything like that, it just seems somehow as I got older I just lost emotion and interest in life. Even when I'm doing things I like, like playing with my band, I still feel emotionless. Is this just part of being an adult? I have friends and a girlfriend, but still I just feel so emotionless and lifeless, but it's not a depression thing, just feel dead and worn out and disinterested in everything.How can I not feel so emotionless as an adult?
    That's a common phenomenon. The only real cure is to turn to religion. I've seens many similar stories on the internet where people FINALLY felt alive again after rediscovering their connection with God.



    Though these days religion is labled as ';oppressive';, it's the only real cure. Like women... Can't live with em, but can't live without em either.



    And even if you're ';sort of'; relgious you should still look into learning about other religions so you can know for sure which one feels the most right to you.



    Personally, Islam works for me =c) Might work for you too. You'll find all you need to know in the Holy Quran.How can I not feel so emotionless as an adult?
    umm yeah - its called depression and despite you informing us that your not depressed, your symptoms confirm it.
    medication will solve this, see a doc
    I feel it too.....your always worried about what other people will think if you act stupid or fun, or immature....I say do something you normally wouldnt do.... skip to work, stick your tongue out at everyone wearing red today.....blow kisses to strangers.... who cares what people will think....DO IT!
    Start travelling if you can. I do believe you are depressed but I also think that certain activities can give you adrenaline and take your mind off worries. Some areas are so astounding they can leave you breathless. I highly reccomend it.
    You should try jogging, buying a fish tank, or read a book. However, life is very interesting, look at the stars, watch your surroundings, smell the air you breath, taste and smell food. Their are plenty of things going on, and you need to realize it. The world does not revolve around you.
    Its just emotion, If you feel emotionless, no worries, It happens, If you care about others and care about yourself then you must not worry..life stages are complicated enough to understand....live your life as you want
    First thing you must do is: If you watch the news, stop!

    Second: I agree with the one who says do something out of the norm, let loose! Do silly stuff that makes people look at you like you need a trip to an adult daycare center.

    Sometimes talking to a stranger or getting info on depression helps. You will see that your symptoms are not as bad as you thought. You have the same out look on life right now that so many people in our country do. I think if we impeach Bush, our country will be on the road to recovery. People will start living again.
    How old are you? Do you have any kids? I'm going through similar feelings. And for me I think it's because I'm ready for the next stage in my life (hopefully a great career, some kids and a husband) Maybe it's not exactly the same for you, but maybe you're ready for the next stage to start too, something new and exciting to happen in your life?

    Troubles interacting w/ people?

    I am a sophomore in highschool and i don't have any friends. Let me rephrase that, I have friends, but they are my teachers. They love me. I don't see this as a bad thing though. I only have one friend, my imiginary friend Crispen. Lol. Anyways, the kids in my school are not willing to be friends with me because i am 'different'. I get straight A's and I have ventures into such fields as physics, biology, so on. I sit with myself at lunch, and when i see someone sitting alone, I feel symphathy for them and approach them with a friendly greeting and try to engage in conversation with them. I need to make more friends, but people don't want to accept me for who i am. I don't dress like a total dork, you know, with the flooding jeans, collar shirts, bowl-cut hair, thick glasses. This hurts because I can't understand why people reject me because I am a 'nerd' in their perspective and they can't seem to be friends with me because it might ruin their reputation. How can I make friends?!Troubles interacting w/ people?
    'Never trouble trouble, till trouble troubles you.' That's what they say and it sounds like good advice until you stop to think about it. But there are some who maintain that trouble is notoriously devious. Its favourite trick is to sit around waiting until it feels sure you have stopped trying to trouble it, then it grabs its chance. It employs the element of surprise to cause maximum destruction. Hence the alternative theory that says trouble is best continuously troubled, so that it always gives a small, steady supply of stress instead of an occasional, large, unexpected burst! Take the risk that presents itself to you. You will gain more than you can possibly lose.



    llllllll lllll ooo ooo lllllll llllllllllllllTroubles interacting w/ people?
    Well if i could i would pimp you out hun. Well maybe you could go for a new look. Society today judges most people on looks so you would go far with that. Maybe try a new hairstyle, a new outfit, and of course, look and act confident. With all of that, it will be ALOT easier to make friends. You seem like a nice guy too, so thats also a plus.



    Good Luck :)
    Sometimes it can be hard to interact with others and befriend them, but you just gotta stick in there, why don't u try just blending in so try and be involved in what others are doing so long as it is not bad things, you gotta also be ready to accept others as well and be ready to open up to people, I had the same trouble but now I'm always around loads of people and they respect me and regard me as a valuable friend, there were times I felt lonely and sad but the way I got out was to just mix with others and try change some aspects of my lifestyle just to suit me so that I can be happy.

    I'll be your friend :)



    hope this helps.

    How to interact with unknown people?

    Do you actually have to? If so, ask to yourself what the bond is between you and them. I mean, it's not the people you meet at the bus stop, we're talking about. If you are in the same place as them, there must be a reason. So, use that reason to start a conversation. But that is only if you must have one. When I go to a doctor's office, for instance, I usually take a book with me, so that I don't have to interact with other patients while we're waiting. I just say hello, sit down, and start reading.How to interact with unknown people?
    great them, ask what they're doing, ask hobbies, find whatever logical branches of conversation you can derive from thatHow to interact with unknown people?
    Read the book ';How to make friends and influence people';, its a grat book.

    Find out whats important to them. Let them know who you are. Appreciate them for who they are. Find similar strengths or interests you share with them. Even if you disagree with them on something, congradulate them for who they are.
    First realize they are just like you...nervous, anxious and not knowing what to expect from someone theyve never met....relax..take your time and remember have fun and just be you
    for a guy pull out 100 dollar bills..

    ( with paper money inside hidden of course)

    For a woman or girl..bend over a blowing fan..with a skirt on..

    Hey. I was around along time and it seems like that is what it is....

    If I'm a shy person how do I best start trying to change that and start talking to people?

    I'm shy and I have a hard time with interacting with other people and it really bothers me how can I stop being shy?If I'm a shy person how do I best start trying to change that and start talking to people?
    well you have to have a little self confidence im actually in that same slump. but the other day i walked up to the prom queen and just started talking to her at first i said somethin really stupid and felt like an idiot lol but then i told her she looked very nice and told her id be her bodyguard untel halftime of the football game lol:) then when i got back home i talked to hber and i jokinly said that when i first talked to her that i sounded stupid but she just said haha its ok.



    Just talk to people dont let nothing hold you back from life seeing how you may regret it later :)If I'm a shy person how do I best start trying to change that and start talking to people?
    Growing up I was very shy,but now Im really shy.



    Have a hard time interacting with people, these are some suggesion that worked for me.



    - join a club that you like ( art, political, music etc)

    - join a sports team ( its all about working together and having fun)

    - volunteer around your community ( volunteers are really nice people and your helping your community as well )

    - Camp ( thats were everyone makes lifeime friends,)



    all these choices forces interaction and your guarenteed to make friends as well as meet new people.





    - Hoped that helped ;)
    get AIM, and start chatting with more ppl. Start leaving more comments on ppl's MySpace profiles. Call your freinds more often, and plan to go out more often (like after school to someone's house), and start 2 sit at other tables at lunch. think up a list of conversation topics and questions that are interesting 2 talk about.
    I think It's because you don't have any confidence in yourself and have low self esteem; Find things in yourself that you love and only focus on those. Go get your nails or hair done, Once you feel great about yourself I'm sure you'll do fine with contacting others :)
    well, apparently you aren't that shy because you asked TONS of people about your problem. see? isn't so hard os it. just be confident. smile a lot, talk a lot, trust me talking is an addiction so people will catch on fast:)
    Start with polite gestures, like, can I help you with that? Or easy starters are, comments about the weather.

    Remember, other people are just like you and probably would like the ice breaker.



    Good luck.
    start by saying hello to oncoming people when you are walking down the street or even easier- a popular exercise walk. Most people are cool. If not, then it's not your fault! You were just saying hi!
    You have to do something that people think is extrordinary.
    Try approaching random people in the street and ask them something. try to make some conversation. It sounds creepy but its works
    Just tell yourself if someone doesnt like you, its there loss! You are bigger and better than them, they are losing out, not you!
    Smiling always helps. Just smile when it's appropriate. (Not at a funeral.)
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  • If I'm a shy person how do I best start trying to change that and start talking to people?

    I'm shy and I have a hard time with interacting with other people and it really bothers me how can I stop being shy?If I'm a shy person how do I best start trying to change that and start talking to people?
    well you have to have a little self confidence im actually in that same slump. but the other day i walked up to the prom queen and just started talking to her at first i said somethin really stupid and felt like an idiot lol but then i told her she looked very nice and told her id be her bodyguard untel halftime of the football game lol:) then when i got back home i talked to hber and i jokinly said that when i first talked to her that i sounded stupid but she just said haha its ok.



    Just talk to people dont let nothing hold you back from life seeing how you may regret it later :)If I'm a shy person how do I best start trying to change that and start talking to people?
    Growing up I was very shy,but now Im really shy.



    Have a hard time interacting with people, these are some suggesion that worked for me.



    - join a club that you like ( art, political, music etc)

    - join a sports team ( its all about working together and having fun)

    - volunteer around your community ( volunteers are really nice people and your helping your community as well )

    - Camp ( thats were everyone makes lifeime friends,)



    all these choices forces interaction and your guarenteed to make friends as well as meet new people.





    - Hoped that helped ;)
    get AIM, and start chatting with more ppl. Start leaving more comments on ppl's MySpace profiles. Call your freinds more often, and plan to go out more often (like after school to someone's house), and start 2 sit at other tables at lunch. think up a list of conversation topics and questions that are interesting 2 talk about.
    I think It's because you don't have any confidence in yourself and have low self esteem; Find things in yourself that you love and only focus on those. Go get your nails or hair done, Once you feel great about yourself I'm sure you'll do fine with contacting others :)
    well, apparently you aren't that shy because you asked TONS of people about your problem. see? isn't so hard os it. just be confident. smile a lot, talk a lot, trust me talking is an addiction so people will catch on fast:)
    Start with polite gestures, like, can I help you with that? Or easy starters are, comments about the weather.

    Remember, other people are just like you and probably would like the ice breaker.



    Good luck.
    start by saying hello to oncoming people when you are walking down the street or even easier- a popular exercise walk. Most people are cool. If not, then it's not your fault! You were just saying hi!
    You have to do something that people think is extrordinary.
    Try approaching random people in the street and ask them something. try to make some conversation. It sounds creepy but its works
    Just tell yourself if someone doesnt like you, its there loss! You are bigger and better than them, they are losing out, not you!
    Smiling always helps. Just smile when it's appropriate. (Not at a funeral.)

    How can I learn to be more self-confident and outgoing?

    I have a hard time interacting with people that I don't know very well, unless others approach me I wouldn't talk to them. I don't like that I behave this way, in the past it has gotten back to me that I act proud and stuck up. That's not that body language I want to be sending off. I want to be friendly and inviting to everyone.



    How can I work on this issue? I really want to build the friendships I already have and make some awesome knew ones.How can I learn to be more self-confident and outgoing?
    lol dam i remember that i ust to be just like that-----now i'm wayyyy more out-going------i guess i just swallowed my pride and just stopped over thinking things, took a deep breath whenever i was nervous, and just started talking to people, not trying to force myself to be funny or interesting, but just talked----i noticed one of my problems were over thinking things-----i also participated in church plays and going up to read prayers to lotz of people----just stop thinking about all the things your not....just relax and talk-----if you don't agree with something speak up, if you want to say something say it....think positively-----------i'm sorry if this isn't helping much-----lol itz really hard for me to explain-----hope you meet your goal =]





    lol an easier way to say it is to just ';chillax';





    oh yeah n' being outgoing means actually going up to people to talk to them, not just waiting for them to come up to you, TRUST me....i ust to think being a loner wasn't that bad.....but it does not help AT ALL....trust me yo.....lol dam i've learned soooo much from highschool....i'm gonna be a senior next year....lol dam i've changed a lot.....How can I learn to be more self-confident and outgoing?
    I think when everybodys in a group and at least 1 person you know is also in that group stand next to that person that you know and talk to everybody as a whole group. This way you at least have sombody you know by you';re side and you can meet everybody

    Hope this helps !!
    Join clubs, especially Drama..



    be yourself, don't let anyone make you feel inferior
    There is an expression called ';fake it tell you make it'; This means to act the way you want to be. I was shy too at one time. Then one day I decided I didn't want to be that way. What I did is I started to smile at people as I passed them. I would also say hello. It was very hard at first but then after awhile it became like second nature to me. Try it and don't give up. You can do it.
    I never knew this but that quality is the best quality. Sometimes, being alone saves you a lot of problems. With a lot of friends usually comes a lot of problems. Just work on the stuck up part. Being a loner most of the time isn't so bad. Once people do start coming your way, you will notice that they are the kind of people you will really find are true. One suggestion, check out Craigslist on the strictly platonic section of the personals. You can post an ad and pick and choose who you want to be friends with. With the internet, you have the power to pick and choose friends. The success rate of friendships are much better that way. Plus it gives you a sense of control over who has access to your life. Always be responsible with who you let in. People who are too desperate and people who give you that weird feeling are probably not the people you want to have around too much. You want the person to be as compatible with you as possible. Make sure you talk on the phone for a couple of weeks before meeting. Also make sure you are sure you want to meet them. Carry pepper spray for the first meeting. For off-line meeting of people, it's harder. Just be social and talk to people.
    I am exactly like you. I give off that, ';I'm too good to talk and hang with you'; persona but I'm not like that at all.



    I think that you would need to smile more and try to hang around more with the people that you want to attract and be friends with.



    Also I think maybe, but only you can say yes or no-disagree or agree, that you may have self-esteem concerns too.



    I say that you practice in the mirror and you point out all the wonderful things about your look that you know and I know, no one else has because you're unique and different. And even though people try to bring us down or seem like they have all the self-confidence in the world, they had the time to look at themselves and accept who they are and/or fake it so that they don't show how much they are struggling to accept and like themselves.



    It's a long process but assuredly one that you will see improvements and happiness in yourself, in the long run. You'll gain more friends and if you don't have one, a boyfriend that will like your confidence and who you are in the inside as well as the outside.



    Hit me up if I helped!



    HOPE THIS HELPS!!! :o)
    you can't. Unless you take meds that get rid of social phobia. As for self confidence..if you don't have it don't fake like you'll have it or you'll just come off as awkward and annoying.
    Dont worry im shy like that too it's just hard to talk to people u dont know.try to talk to people one at a time

    What should I wear to a church youth group?

    Okay, it is my first time to this church. I don't know the dress code, or if there is one. I am really socially inept when it comes to interacting with people. I want to look good, and be accepted. I know this is really shallow, but I have no clue. I am 18 years old, female, really quiet person. So how should I wear my hair, what top, etc.

    Your help is really appreciated. Thank-You.What should I wear to a church youth group?
    o i go to those kind of things all the time.. i normally jst wear jeans.. nd a tshirt... with mayb a hoody or a jacket.. nothing to out there.. just casual.. =) ... nd then i just leave my hair up or down watever works..=).. i hpe this helped=) xx

    Theists, What will I look like when I get to heaven?

    Lets say I die in an exploding car. What would I look like when I get to heaven? How could I walk around and interact with people if my body parts had blown up into a hundred different pieces when I died? What if I die by a gunshot to the head? Will I have a hole in my skull in heaven? Or will I look like I did right before I died with no injuries?



    Thanks for your help. :)Theists, What will I look like when I get to heaven?
    The bible says we'll be given new imperishable bodies. It also says we'll be like the angels.Theists, What will I look like when I get to heaven?
    You will have a perfect, immortal body. No blemish, not able to be destroyed.



    Take Care.
    Uh,,, there will be no decay in Heaven for starters?? ;)
    Your body is not present in Heaven.

    Your soul, should it require physical representation would be flawless.

    What about social skills (not to mention diversity)?

    Public school does indeed provide socialization; that is it teaches them to conform to a preconcieved notion of what society is or should be.



    But is it right to deny them the opportunity to learn how to interact with people of various ages, backgrounds, and cultures in order to ensure that they conform to the educational establishments idea of what society should be?What about social skills (not to mention diversity)?
    Hehe.



    Somebody was telling me about this t-shirt they saw online. I think it was through something called Press Cafe? Or maybe the other way around? In any case, the shirt went something like this:



    The only time you're going to be on a strict schedule to change activities during the day, told when to eat and do this and that [no, not the words, I just can't remember what I was told!] and be around 30 other people your age day in and day out is in a



    NURSING HOME.



    lolWhat about social skills (not to mention diversity)?
    When did public school become the ultimate real life experience? I thought it was a place to study and learn.
    Yeah, public school provides socialization -- from their peers. By isolating kids into peer groups we do two things: First, they learn all their manners and interpersonal skills from a bunch of other little clueless kids. Wouldn't you rather have kids learn how to interact with other people by observing adults and older children than a bunch of other unruly 5-year-olds?



    Second, by dividing up kids by ages they learn to identify more with kids their own age than with their parents, teachers, siblings, or other groups. It is this peer group that will, when they are older, steer them in the wrong direction and minimize the importance they will place on advice and direction from the adults in their lives.



    A better alternative for good socialization is a home school environment. There, the kids take their cues from adults and older siblings. They learn how to successfully interact in a mature way. They have opportunities throughout their day to meet other adults and other home-schooled children through sports, academic, and other social settings. They have time in their schedule for service projects and volunteering.



    Institutional school settings just aren't the right choice for good socialization experiences.
    By whom, and according to what standards, do you want them socialized?



    Yes, public school often does provide a broader range of people--but not always! And they're not always the people you want to influence your kids. It can be a good thing, or a bad thing, depending on the school and the people they'd hang out with otherwise.



    I mean, if you lived in a rough, drug-filled neighborhood in the inner city, would you send your kids to the local public school? Would you want your kids to enjoy the social opportunities that would provide? (I know, there are some good kids even there--but are you sure your kids would hang out with them? And who would help them withstand the coercion of the class punk who wanted your kid to run drugs for him?)
    Here are just a few of the ';life lessons'; I learned in public school:



    I could skate by and do absolutely no work just because I was pretty and a cheerleader. Some pathetic dope who wanted to be my friend would always do it for me. Obviously this strategy doesn't work in the real world unless you work for someone like Bill Clinton and you don't mind being a whore!



    I could treat people as badly as I wanted to and it was ok, even expected because I was popular. Again, doesn't work in the real world, you will lose your friends, your job, etc.



    Education is not nearly as important as your social status. Again another one of those things that is total bs, but guess its more important for some to be an idiot and popular than to learn how to be a successful adult.



    Relationships are only about social status. Even if you meet someone that you really connect with, no friendship or God forbid dating or it will destroy you. Sadly enough this presented alot of missed opportunities for me and no childhood friendships remain.



    Never be yourself. Unless you are queen bee you must be a clone of someone else and never have a thought in your head that someone more popular than you didn't put there.



    Now do those really seem like good social skills, I don't think so!
    It is the 'hot house' approach for raising children. The children are grouped by age, not by maturity or ability. They are protected from real life situations by the 4 walls of a classroom.
    I read an account from a woman who was a public school teacher. Her daughter was ahead of her peers on every subject, but the school system refused to skip her a grade. She asked the principal, ';Why is my daughter even here?'; and the principal replied, ';Socialization.'; The woman said, ';You call learning how to say '2, 4, 6, 8, let me see your booty shake' at recess 'socialization?''; and she pulled her daughter out of public schools, quit her teaching job to homeschool her daughter, and has never looked back.

    There are all kinds of ways for your homeschooled child to be with his peers. From a homeschool co-op to classes at the Y, there will always be kids to hang out with. Not to mention kids in the neighborhood! Get out and talk to your frickin' neighbors, people! Whatever happened to community?
    What I find amusing is that when you ask this question this way you'll get many people telling you why kids DON'T need public school socialization.. but if this was in 'home school' you'd have many telling you why kids DO need public school socialization..
    I think public school misleads kids about the reality of socialization. And when they actually get out into the real world, the are in culture shock. ';You mean I'm not the most popular girl in the whole world anymore?'; And since public school has taken out all forms of true competition, i.e. there are not more losers anymore, everyone is equal, sensitivity training, political correctness etc. the system actually is teaching them a social lie. So what really is the point of 'socialization' in public schools?

    Psychologists! How hard is it to redo something that should have been done long time ago?

    I came from China, I lived there for 13 years.

    Chinese education is a failure, in that it transforms students into mindless test taking machines totally ignore and avoid the psychological development of the students

    People say American kids are spoiled, but it is the Chinese who are truly spoiled, in a disastrous way

    As people grow, what made their social skills? It is none other than interaction with peers, to socialize; but since socialize interferes with studying, it is forbidden by Chinese parents.

    Chinese kids thus are isolated into their own small world, whose only people skill only came from the brainwashing pro-chinese communist party education classes, only in the forms of worship your superior

    After I have been in the U.S. for more than 6 years, since I had taken AP Psychology class in my American high school, I started to suspect that my clumsiness in social interactions and my tendency to say or do stupid/offensive/childish things without aware of what I just did might be autism, that the awkwardness of me interacting with my peers is because that I am psychologically unable...but...

    When I talk to my Chinese relatives in China, my elder cousin, they told me I sound very mature, that I must be 10 years older than I am....

    and I knew for a fact that they are not lying, since they described of why I sound mature...things like ';have independent thinking'; and ';knew clearly what I want for my career and how I get it';

    sounds basic in America, but true in China

    So now I suspect that the problem I have is not psychological, it is not that I have psychological disorders, but because of my isolation from people and proper social skills education back in China and 2-3 years when I am in America, I acted accordingly to what I have learned in these recent years, and my emotional age grew accordingly.

    So if, after these 3 years of interacting with people my emotional age is like 8-10, is there any way to redo the damage and bring my emotional age equivalent to my physical age? which is 20?

    Or do you think isolation is not the cause of my problems in social situations? but it is indeed some kind of psychological disorder like autism?

    I am planning to see a psychiatrist, btwPsychologists! How hard is it to redo something that should have been done long time ago?
    I think you sound like you are doing very well, better than some americans your age...also...... and you have had to deal with both cultures......good for you.......

    I would say that you do NOT sound like there is anything 'wrong ' with you......but you need to know if you see a psychiatrist, they are trained to find any negative, and they are not necessarily right about their diagnosis.........

    I dont think you mean you want to 'redo ' the damage.......because that means to repeat the damage over again.........

    I am convinced , from what you have said, that you will rapidly catch up with your age, and you may be there already there

    so you have to learn to relax a little and give yourself a break in all your pushing to be better and better..........everyone needs a vacation and to relax

    Emotional maturity does increase the more one grows and the more one is around mature people...... it includes having a value system and helping others and not always competing with others to get ahead.......and all that......

    I seriously dont think you have anything to worry about........take care.......happy new year , tooPsychologists! How hard is it to redo something that should have been done long time ago?
    I will guess that you are experiencing some cultural differences outside of, and in addition to, the realm of independent versus state directed thinking, peer socialization, etc... It sounds like you have a good grasp of the big picture and some of the specific issues that are causing you troubles. In a glossed over summary, it sounds like you are lacking general, American style, social skills. What you are discovering is that you have been in America long enough that you are not as native- Chinese in terms of culture and world view any more either.



    Do realize that in American English, that body language, facial expression, intonation, inflection, and more are very critical in relaying a message as intended. These are learned in lessons that begin when our parents smile and coo to us at birth, continue when we play as toddlers with others, and of course through out our school years. Further, they are not the same throughout all of our sub-cultures nor geographically across the US. - Some of the differences are generated through shared experiences but, they are also shaped by the cultures from which the participants originated in.



    Because we are social creatures at heart, we can certainly be emotionally affected by our interactions with others. If you feel hurt, ostracized, shunned, socially corrected, etc... when you interact with others, it does make sense that you drifted towards avoiding social interactions.



    You may want to explore the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist in your quest for solutions. My bias is that which ever discipline you seek, it should be with someone who understands/can understand the two cultures. Also, keep in the back of your mind that Toastmasters often offers a class in social conversation and small talk; Toastmasters is an organization devoted to various forms of speaking and public speaking.

    What is Microsoft launching at midnight?

    I'm told that tonight, at 12:01am EST (okay, so tomorrow), the division of Microsoft that launched the Xbox and the Zune will unveil something very special . What it is, we do not know for sure, but it's ';something totally new coming out of the Entertainment and Devices division, and it's going to change the way people interact with technology.'; The email (which was not a tip but rather was mistakenly sent to me through official channels) also stated that ';you really have to see it to believe it.'; How tantalizing.



    Gizmodo.comWhat is Microsoft launching at midnight?
    Microsoft Surface is the only thing I can think of go here for a video dininstration Has a HUGE price tag 5-10,000 bucks



    click the link below and scroll down to the video VERY IMPRESSIVE



    http://gizmodo.com/gadgets/touch-me/micr…What is Microsoft launching at midnight?
    you probably know by now - msft surface...



    http://www.microsoft.com/surface/

    How do I stop being too scared of hurting other people's feelings so I can interact normally with people?

    I am way too nice to people, I think mainly because I grew up with lots of school kids and even some family either making fun of me for various things or just being plain mean and rude. I kind of decided I never wanted to make others feel the way I felt for so many years. I work heavily with the public every day now, and I find myself in situations where I need to have a backbone but end up letting people take advantage of me. I can't find that balance of being polite but firm when I need to be. I also feel anger towards myself for doing this and towards the people I allow to walk all over me. So I end up having a lot of built-up anger inside and my own life is suffering for it. Any useful advice would be appreciated. How do I stop being too scared of hurting other people's feelings so I can interact normally with people?
    Why are you so conceited you think you have the power to make or break someone? So what if your rude to someone? Who are you to think you mean anything to them? Why do you think you have the power to make or break someone, why do feel you have the power to influence a complete stranger's life? Get over yourself, your not so special that you'll crush another's spirit. Your hardly a god type.How do I stop being too scared of hurting other people's feelings so I can interact normally with people?
    I have the same problem, I was always the nice guy and got burned for it a lot, One day I decided to be an ****** and it worked out great. Since then I have reverted back to my old self and am happy about it. You should feel good about taking the high road, being nice and making the world a better place (there are not to many of us). If you can put a smile on one persons face a day you are better than most.Working in the service industry or customer service with the general public you have to let people walk all over you. Don't let it bother you. That's your job to take the blame. It sucks but you could always do something else where you don't have to interact with the general public(line cook, logistics,construction). You may also have (SAD) Social Anxiety Disorder. Look into it. If you still have problems see a psychologist, He/she will be able to find out why you are the way you are. I went to one once a week for a couple months, helped me out a bunch! Good Luck
    Hmm. Don C ^^^ you are very mean. Plus that was a really random answer:)

    Don't worry, I do the same thing! But I did learn a while ago to be firm. Built up anger will only lead to burning bridges. You can talk to someone, such as a close family member or friend. You can work on being firm with that family member/friend. Stand your ground:)

    God bless
    im a bit like this too. the fact is you cant please everyone or make everyone happy. its just the truth, you'd be stretching yourself way to thin, in a metaphorical way. if you feel ashamed or bad when letting yourself getting taken advantage of then do somthing. say no, or correct the person. being nice is one thing but you always need to have that firm backbone to fall back on while holding your values and life lessons close. you really need to do this for yourself. building up self esteem and a respect for yourself and establishing yourself as a ';solid' person who wont back down will make you feel much better. just take that first step, it doesnt have to be a big one take little ones. like lets say in your job someone is filling a form out and they hand it and walk away. you notice that they've forgotten to give your pen back. instead of just letting them walk out say somthing, ask to give it back. you can ask nicely but make your message clear of what you want. i hope this helps and that you build up and feel better as a person.self hate never got anyone anywhere.
    Ultimately, this behavior is proving to be maladaptive. You need to realize your own strengths and weaknesses. To believe that you are ';mean or rude'; simply by showing another person your strength, shows that you are uncertain with your own personality. It sounds as if you aren't being assertive at all. Passive and sometimes passive/aggressive seems to fit better. You have to remember the person who matters most is you. Therefore, you sometimes have to be tougher on those around you because they want the same thing (what's best for them).

    You know what it felt like to be teased and treated like less of a person, so I am confident that you can figure out what actions of yours could cause another to feel the same. Anger is as dangerous as stress. The longer you hold onto it, the more it will eat you alive.



    I truly hope this helps, and most importantly that you work these issues out. It is definitely possible, and you are the only one who can work them out.

    Best of luck ^-^

    How can I become more social and comfortable at parties?

    At social events, I tend to hide in the corner with my friends, just chatting.I feel too self conscious to dance, and I feel that I would have a hard time getting up and mingling and socializing. I'm not socially awkward; I have a wide selection of friends. However, when it comes to mingling and interacting with people I don't know, I become shy which is very unlike my normally boisterous self .



    How can I overcome my timidness and get up, dance, and join the party?How can I become more social and comfortable at parties?
    it makes it easy if you just treat them like there already your friends. do as you do with the wide selection of friends you already have. most people are the same way, they just know how to b$llsh$t there way through.How can I become more social and comfortable at parties?
    drink more!
    Do you know how to dance?

    That'd be a good place to start, become a really good dancer and dance with people and and that awkward shyness will peace out!

    How do i get into sales at 19 years old? Where/how do i start?

    I love it so much with passion, I love interacting with people, that i enter this euphoric state of mind..I currently work as a waiter at night, and there hasnt been one day where someone HASNT told me ';you should be a saleman';



    Where do i start? How do i get started with nothing to put on my resume?



    I am in college so I have Mon+wed off, and weekends off. Who might hire me?How do i get into sales at 19 years old? Where/how do i start?
    Your top professionals in the sales field all have a minimum of a B.A. degree in Business. Make that your major now in college and apply at large companies that you like as an intern.Ask your college counselor about them placing you as an intern.This way you can explore this field and see what it is really like, and what you want to sell.How do i get into sales at 19 years old? Where/how do i start?
    Normally I would have said head to your local car dealership, but with the current state of the car business, it is not a very lucrative venture right now.



    I know of 3 salespersons who have recently turned to network marketing and are building a good sales commission from it (I am not a salesperson, I am a research tech). You could look into some home based sales/marketing opportunities, as many business are turning to consultants rather than traditional advertising in an effort to be more finacially efficient. If you want to email me, I can send you some links to what some of my friends are working on, as there are a lot of bad companies out there as well.
    Try looking at NARMS.com, there are a lot of merchandising/sales jobs on there that don't require a BA to be hired. Meanwhile since you are in college, that is good to put on your resume, and you can apply to almost any company with the thought that you are going to have a BA eventually.
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  • How do you know if your attractive or average or just ugly?

    based on how other people interact with you and treat you. Also does personality add to how attractive you are.How do you know if your attractive or average or just ugly?
    simply ask people, tell them to be honestHow do you know if your attractive or average or just ugly?
    well if noone talks to you then your ugly.... if you talk to people and let them get to know you. your ok... if people all talk to you ur ******* fine
    personality makes such a difference with girls.... not as much for guys... If it wasn't for my personality i'd be in more trouble but i guess i do alright... well im not Bradd pitt, but not danny devito either!
    personality can make you attractive on unattractive , i think thats the main factor.
    Ask a good friend. They can give you an honest answer.



    If you love yourself you are likely to be beautiful.
    girls usually smile or look at guys in a good way when they're hot! so if u this doesn't happen to u when u go out, then ur not attractive lol!
    If you want to know how attractive you are put your photo on hot or not. Its a website it will tell you!
    look at yourself. you can kind of tell, although most people fancy themselves worse-looking than they are to some extent.



    do strangers stare at you then jar their gaze away abruptly with a puzzled/frown on their face? that's a bad sign.



    do members of the opposite sex look at you, and if you look at them they turn away quickly, but only as if they dont want you to notice them? good sign.



    and personality definitely adds to your attractiveness in the eyes of your friends.



    so, if you become friends with girl and have great personality as you two get a little bit closer you will become more attractive and in her mind actually better looking (assuming unchanged actual looks) too. and then of course if you build relationship with her, better chances than if you didnt become friends to some level first
    I have come to find that if one finds themselves attractive and carry themselves with great self respect and care, then that person is attractive. A personality/self confidence is the sexiest thing you can adorn in my opinion. *As long as you are being yourself and not trying to impersonate someone else's persona!*
    sometimes to be attractive all it takes is confidence. Have you ever noticed some people are ';average'; looking and yet because of their confidence people flock to them..they are not sure why or what attracts them to that person, but they just like being around him/her... because of confidence. So yes I believe personality in some ways does play a part.
    Do you have luck with the people you are trying to interact with or attract? Personality is very important! Hopefully you don't look like the guy in that movie MASK with Cher. That guy was so bad I don't know how that girl could be with him. Even though his personality was good..good luck. As long as you don't look that bad you are doing good. Also if he can get a girl then anyone can. If you haven't seen that movie you need to watch it.
    If you're attractive, you'll notice people checking you out or looking at you acceptingly. If you're ugly, people will stare in disbelief or disgust. If you're average, no one will notice you in a crowd.

    Why does the christain god work and interact only with people in the middle east in the bible?

    Why didnt god reveal himself to the harappan or mohen jo daro civilisations of india?Why didnt he reveal himself to the chinese?the africans?the aborgines

    werent they his creation too?

    How were they to know about the true religion if god did not communicate with them or at least show them a sign?

    These poor people were forced to ';invent'; other new gods like siva,brahma,buddha because

    the judeo christian god did not care about them....Why does the christain god work and interact only with people in the middle east in the bible?
    You forgot to ask, why hasn't god intereacted with anyone since then?Why does the christain god work and interact only with people in the middle east in the bible?
    There is no reason to believe that God did not reveal himself to other societies. It is a teaching of Christianity that other societies, and even other religions, hold a partial truth.



    If we hold to the story of Abraham and Isaac, there is no reason to believe that God did not make the same offer to others, but was turned down.





    .
    You should read the Bible so that He can explain to you why the Jews in particular were given His testimony and how He feels about the rest of people of the world. All people generally existed in the same area at one time.
    First off, there is no evidence that He didn't interact with others, there is just no biblical mention of it. Secondly, God interacted in the Middle East because that is where life began, where the Israelites were from, and was a major crossroads between Asia, Europe, and Africa.
    People from the Middle East and North Africa wrote the texts of the Bible. Like any other human beings, the wrote the content from their perspective.
    Buddha is not a god.
    Perhaps you haven't heard of the great commission that was given to his disciples after his death burial and resurrection that they spread his teachings to all the nations of the world.



    Matthew 28:16-20:



    Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted. Then Jesus came to them and said, ';All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.';(NIV)



    We are commanded to share our faith with others to the ends of the earth.
    God cared for the whole world, so he revealed himself to mankind. He had to start somewhere. Abraham was a descendent of righteous Noah, so that is why Abraham was chosen. God made a covenant with Abraham, Issac, and Jacob, who was the father of the twelve tribes of Israel. According to the Hebrew prophets, a universal saviour would be given to the entire world. He is called the Messiah in the Scriptures. Although he would be a descent of King David in the flesh, he would bring salvation to everyone, both Jew and Gentile (nonJew) so that the whole world could be blessed. Most of the other nations substituted their worship of the Creator in prehistory for the worship of the creation. However, the door of salvation is open to everyone, including the Chinese, the Africans, and the Australian aborigines. In fact, many of them now know our God. Interestingly, the area where the Christian faith is spreading the fastest is now in both China and the continent of Africa.
    My friend, this God is not a christian God. He is the God of all nations.

    The story of Abraham started in the middle east. He is the Goad of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and your God too.

    The word of God in the new testament was carried all over the world includinng the countries you mentioned but the problem is that they chose no to believe.
    because that is where the beginning occurred...one step at a time...the prophecies pointed to that area and space in time where Christ would be and that is where this had to occur...the rest of the world has heard the good news and the disciples and the prophets traveled and shared the good news of Christ...
    This question shows your lack of knowledge on you history as well as theology. God spoke to many cultures over time all over the world. The Natives had a concept of the Great Spirit with out formalized religion.



    For one the Indians didn't make up their own Gods anymore than Christian did.



    If you knew what Krsna is you would know that he is the equivalent to Christ in Christianity. In fact Krsna existed before Christ and the Buddha. Also in the Bhagavad-gita Krsna says many similar things before Christ.



    The Gods of India are actually demi-gods as different expressions of the Supreme Lord.



    Your narrow minded view leads you to think that you knowledge is valid, but is only an expression where, and when you were born. Not becuase of some religious authority.
    God interacted with the Israelites in Old Testament times because it was through them that His Son would come to save the world. John 3:16-17 (King James Version)



    16For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.



    17For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.



    In Mark's Gospel Jesus tells Christians; Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world (28:19-20).





    The Bible is God's written Word to us.

    It was written by human authors, under the supernatural guidance of the Holy Spirit.



    “Above all you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet's own interpretation. For prophecy never had its origin in the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” 2 Peter 1:20-21. (New International Version)



    Breakdown of the Bible

    36 human authors inspired entirely by God over 1600 years.

    66 separate books



    39 Old Testament

    Genesis- The creation of the world, sin, flood and birth of Israel

    Exodus to Esther- History of the nation of Israel

    Job to Proverbs- the books of poetry and wisdom

    Isaiah to Malachi- Prophecy or foretelling of the future events to come.



    27 New Testament

    Matthew to John - Four Gospels representing the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ now with all authority in Heaven and earth.

    Acts- Birth of the Church (The Bride of Christ)

    Romans to Jude - Letters to the Churches

    Revelations - The ultimate future plans for: The Church, Heaven, Hell, a New Heaven and a New Earth.



    Here are some Bible Study Resources for anything you may want to look up:

    http://www.Biblegateway.com

    http://www.Ntgateway.com

    http://www.Bible.org

    http://www.bible-history.com

    http://www.answersingenesis.org/
    Noah had 3 sons: Japheth, Ham and Shem.



    Sons of Ham were cursed because Ham saw Noah's nakedness. Ham's descendant was Nimrod, Noah's grandson, who rebelled against God and created the Tower of Babel. From Babel God scattered all the sons of Babel.



    Shem's descendants begat Abraham and Abraham believed God and God accounted it to Abraham for righteousness.



    Apostle Paul and the disciples of Jesus visited these places and told of the gospel of Christ. Jesus will return when the gospel is preached in all of the world.
    See the book of mormon
    He did. www.lds.org or www.mormon.com

    Are ';homeless'; people, on average, just as safe to interact with as people that have money and jobs?

    I grew up with the message that I should not go near the homeless because they are dangerous and many have mental illnesses. I feel sympathetic for homeless people, and I want to create a documentary to raise awareness of poverty, which is so overlooked in our country, and give a voice to the invisible. Is it safe to interview homeless people, and what can I do to help them feel as comfortable as possible when talking to me about how they became homeless and how they feel about being invisible in our society. Should I offer them money to talk to me/ offer food?Are ';homeless'; people, on average, just as safe to interact with as people that have money and jobs?
    A good way for you to go about this would be to work with your local homeless shelter. The people staying at shelters have to abide by the rules, and a shelter is a supervised environment. If you want to talk to people on the streets, you can safely do this on well-populated streets in the daytime. I honestly don't believe that homeless people are more dangerous than anyone else, but people themselves can be dangerous, and I wouldn't want to interview anyone I didn't know at night or all alone.



    As for incentives, that's a good idea. The people who do surveys in the mall, and psychology students doing projects, all commonly offer incentives for your time. Maybe you could serve a meal at the shelter for everyone who agrees to an interview, or you could give out gift certificates to a restaurant or a grocery store or to Wal-Mart. $5-$10 is a good reimbursement for 30-60 minutes of their time.



    If you are filming, make sure that you have permission from *everyone* who may appear in the film, even if for only 5 seconds. Permission slips are a good idea.Are ';homeless'; people, on average, just as safe to interact with as people that have money and jobs?
    People are people. As people, we all vary individually and therefore the answer to your question may vary. Generally speaking, most people are safe to interact with, but anything is possible.
    Offer money %26amp; food and talk to them in a public spot, not like a dark alley where they might be tempted to steal your camera to pawn for more money and food.
    Well some are in fact mentally ill and might snap and kill you, but the majority are harmless. I find people in general to be dangerous, so I always assume the worst rather you're wearing Dickies eating out of the trash or wearing Kenneth Coles yapping on your Treo.
    Hell no



    I live around a good amount of them and I hate them



    They ******* stink, they all ask you for money



    Sure, there may be like 4 good homeless people in the world



    Homeless people are homeless for a reason



    they suck at life
    offer them whatever you want, they can accept or deny, most homeless people are not dangerous, but I wouldn't trust them with my wallet.



    The film is going to be a flop, cause not many of us are interested in watching homeless people.
    You should get to know homeless people without taking unnecessary risks. Try ';observing'; them, no not stalking but observing. See if they are aggressive or kind. Don't try to talk to someone that looks drunk. There probably in a bad mood. Try doing your research inside a salvation army. There more controlled there.
    People with jobs can have mental illnesses and can be dangerous too.

    They are human beings too. You run just as much risk speaking with a stranger as you do a homeless stranger.
    of course you can talk to homlessness pople and yes, you do have to be careful. as you would any strnager.

    homelessness makes people more dangerous because they are in desperate (financial) places in their lives.
    Me too! I feel symapthetic!



    I wouldn't think that they would be dangerous, i always suspect them to be super nice, because they can't really brag of what they have, they just ask you for money, and I feel sorry for them..I feel really sad once I see someone living in a box..I saw one once when I was in Florida..I felt so sorry for him...



    hope this helps!
    i would say no, hate to sound like a biggot, but a lot of them have something wrong with them. used to work in a print shop in washington DC and there were homeless people there all the time, they would use a lot of our equipment out back to build shelters out of and them just enter the shop and steal whatever was not nailed down and pawn it down the street. and a whole hord of them would be around you if you ever went outside with for a smoke or with food beggin for some.
    I used to get drunk in downtown Portland until the bars closed. I didn't want to pay for a taxi so I would just wait until morning walking around until the buses started running again. And sometimes I would find bums hanging out around the McDonalds and I would just sit there and talk to them. I never got mugged or anything.
    yes
    In the space of 2 months, a homeless person attacked one of my co-workers outside the building we work in, and my wife got bitten by a homeless person.



    Experience shows me that homeless people are nowhere near as safe.
    their people

    watch a few doucumentaries your self

    if not to get more comftarble to better familiar your self with the concept

    its like human nature at its rawest

    amazing truly

    their peopl they have the same motavations as anyone

    so greesing their palms with cash would probably help

    carry cash no pokects or purses desperation does horid things to a man

    btw emotional trauma and mental disabilities knows no class

    keep this in mind when your doing your documentary

    it dosent really help unless your spiritually, im not

    ';there, but by the grace of god, go i';
    A lot of homeless people come to get out of the rain/ visit my friend at her work. They can have a normal conversation, but from all of them, it DOES seem like they all have mental problems. One of them, whom she tried to be 'friends' with (was always nice, always let him come in the store), was fairly normal at first but then started getting creepy and said sexual things to her, so she got a restraining order against him that he's not allowed on premices. Unfortunately, not one single one of the homeless people are 'normal', at least not to me. Sure, they might seem 'nice' at first, but just from my experience, I now stay away from them and try not to talk to them, because it's clear they ALL have mental problems. Sure, I may feel bad and sympathetic for them, but I do not trust them and I haven't met one yet who does'nt have mental problems. So...I guess, for your documentary, it's fine but just be safe. Each person is different, but honestly, as stereotypical as this may sound, 9 times out of 10, if you give them money, they will mostly likely go and buy alcohol or drugs with it...so to be 'nicer' and benefit them more, yeah, offer to take them out to dinner or whatever and explain what you're doing.
    Food would be better to offer them...

    Talk to them in a group setting,,soup kitchens, shelters etc. in the daytime with others around..You will be okay.N

    Not all homeless people are dangerous, some professionals fall on hard times, go through a divorce, mental breakdown are just some reasons there are people who are homeless from all walks of life.

    There are many reasons people are homeless, and you will see its not because they are all addicts or lazy.



    Someone said 'everyone is one paycheck away from being homeless'..Not really so if you have family or savings but it can be so.



    Great documentary subject..Good for you for wanting to raise awareness of this problem. In the land of plenty for some, no help for others.





    When some of the soldiers come home I believe the percentage of homeless will be even higher....unfortunately.
    People are homeless for a reason.



    If they do not have personal problems, they will most likely, given time, stop being homeless.



    the cronic homeless are the ones with the mental problems, drug problems.



    Laziness is not a cause of cronic homelessness. Mental problems, lack of self-resourcefullfness(job skills, internal wisdom, self-worth) are the causes of cronic homelessness.



    Offer food, keep an escape route, and someone with a wide back and large fore-arms who looks like they can wipe the floor with you- in otherwords, go with a body guard.

    How do you play World of Warcraft on a Mac?

    Okay.. I just installed wow on my mac. now... I went to go talk to the first lady to get my very first quest. On a PC... I would just right click the person to talk and get their attention. On a mac, I cant seem to find the right button to make that happen... Any ideas?



    I can't figure it out... how the hell do I interact with people for the quests on a mac???How do you play World of Warcraft on a Mac?
    you need to get a mouse with a right click

    How can I be more talkative and outgoing?

    I've noticed that I'm still pretty shy and quiet when it comes to meeting and interacting with people. It annoys me that I'm so quiet around people. I just feel like I don't have much to talk about. Why is this? What can I do to be more outgoing and fun to be around? How can I be more talkative and outgoing?
    You could try laughing at what other people say a lot, compliment people's styles,even if you don't like them. You could try asking people to borrow things such as pencils, and things. These little things can start conversations. Also, smiling a lot will make you look friendly.Try to make things you do look fun, and being a nice person is a boost. These things can make you look outgoing, and make more friends. Otherwise, just be yourself and try to make the best of everything! I use to be shy, but i have gotten way more outgoing. Hope this helps, it helped me!

    :)How can I be more talkative and outgoing?
    Good question. I'm like that too most of the time :/
    ask yourself: ';what do i have to lose'; besides that one person MAYBE, well there a billions of other people in the world rite



    ask them questions like ';what did you do this weekend'; or ';where do you get your clothes, they're cute'; or ';did you hear about so and so'; stuff like that gets into deeper conversations and then bam u gotta friend



    also it helps to think that everybody is an individual. not everybody can be loud, not everybody can be quiet. you are you and wouldn't you rather be hated for something you are than loved for something you are not
    Im exactly the same way and i wish i wasn't!! it can get really annoying i know and its like what should i ask or say to this person and then you just draw a blank. i think what we have to do is just start talking about random things. my mom always tells me that people like talking about themselves so just ask questions about them and try to relate their answers to other things
    You have to work on ways to be more socially active. This may mean that you need to go out more and meet more people. Having friends is always a good way. You want to feel as if you can talk to anyone and feel comfortable no matter where you are or what you are doing.



    One of the first things you can do is develop eye contact. For many people, it’s intimidating to look people in they eye. As soon as someone catches your eye, do you find yourself quickly looking away? Why not make a challenge to yourself, the next person you meet, I’m going to look at them straight in the eye, smile and count to three before I look away. You might have to try this a few times, but eventually you’ll get the hang of it. Trust me it’s worth it. Do this for a week, make a conscious effort to do it. (A hint if you’re REALLY shy, don’t try to do it to someone you find naturally attractive, instead do it with someone that you’re not attracted to at all, it just seems less intimidating. I think it would be a blow to anyone’s self esteem if they just couldn’t hold eye contact with Angelina Jolie for three seconds.)



    After you feel comfortable looking people in the eye, now it’s time to say something. Just a simple “Hello”, “Hi”, “How’s it going?” What you’ll find is that people are starved for interaction as well. Often just a simple Hello can start a train reaction, and the next thing you know, you’re twenty minutes into a deep conversation.



    Now if you really want to get good at being outgoing, you have to get good at trivial conversations. The best thing I can tell you is 3-1. Not 31. But three parts them, one part you. If you engage them in conversation, and let them talk about themselves three times more than you talk about yourself, you’re doing great.

    If you’re not naturally outgoing, it doesn’t mean you can’t become more outgoing and defeat your shyness. It just takes some practice, but trust me the practice is fun. You’ll be glad you did it in no time.

    Is there medication that can substitute for socializing?

    I spend my days studying for 7-8 hours a day and then doing optional research on my material. I've read articles on how the need for socializing is innate or I could go insane, and I don't like socializing or interacting with people at all. Most of my life I've been sheltered and withdrawn from other kids, in order to get top grades. I just don't like people or associating with them. So is there any medication that would substitute for socializing? Sometimes I feel as if I am losing my mind.Is there medication that can substitute for socializing?
    There is no chemical substitute for socializing. If you are worried about your lack of interaction with people, try slowly introducing people into your life as a kind of test. You will always have a more balanced life if you have controlled social access to other people, but with your personality you may find that less, rather than more socialization works for you at this time. Everyone's social needs change based on different periods of their lives. You just need to find the balance that works for you.Is there medication that can substitute for socializing?
    no...
    PAXIL



    UND LOTS OF IT



    SEE YUR LOCAL SHRINK UND GET DOSED

    How can I deal with my social anxiety while working?

    I'm 17 and pretty soon I hope to be getting my first job. I really want to work, but my social anxiety might make me nervous while I'm at work. I have trouble interacting with people (mainly strangers or people I don't know well) and I often get nervous when I have to. My shyness doesn't help me much either...



    I know most job requires this type of interaction so does anyone have any tips/advice on how I can be less nervous? Thanks! =)How can I deal with my social anxiety while working?
    i think i know how you feel, my family owns a restaurant and my mom makes me help out. i'm shy (espically around strangers and people i never talk to before), just like you. and i didn't want to talk to any that i didn't know while i was helping out. but once i did it and wasn't bad and soon enough i was use to it. so just tell yourself ';this isn't going to be so bad'; and once you done it a couple of times you'll get use to it.



    look at the BRIGHT side you only have to work there for a couple of hours and soon you know it it'll be time to go home. unlike me i had to stay there for the rest of the day. and who knows you might even be able to make some friends



    GOOD LUCK

    on your first job and remember to have fun with it =]How can I deal with my social anxiety while working?
    Hmm....I imagine that could be quite difficult, trying to hold down a job that involves social interaction while bieng shy.



    My advice is that you should just relax and be yourself, if you're doing that then it will help take the nervousness and the shyness away, also when you're interacting with a ';stranger'; or someone you're not fimiliar with then you should try imagining in you're mind that you're talking to a relative or a close friend, that will help stifle your shyness and nervousness.



    Hope I Helped
    Idid a career in the U.S. Army, and when you get promoted to the higher ranks, you sometimes need to give classes and briefings to large groups of people, some of whom are high ranking military and government officials.

    As you might guess, your 'pucker factor' gets way up there. You have teams of people reviewing all of your presentation, you go over it three or four times (It is amazing how three or four people can review a power point presentation, declare it clean and well presented, then some jerk in the back row points out in front of everyone (Generals and congressmen) that your grammar is wrong or you misspelled a word).

    What happened early on in my career was we would have to give a short class with a video camera rolling.

    We would then review it, and everyone could point out your little idiosyncrasies (looking at the floor, picking your nose, digging in your ear, etc).

    What might be a good idea is to do the same thing with family and friends, let them 'roast' you over stupid things you might do, and work on improving yourself.

    But, alas, you are going to end up doing really stupid things in front of lots of people.

    such is the lessons of life.

    Almost every time i had to stand in front of people, my heart would pound, my palms would sweat, and I would shake, even with people I knew, but once I got going, it turned out to be kind of fun (except when some jerk would 'sharp shoot' me).

    Just calm down, and be reassured that the people that seem 'over sociable' are over-compensating for being scared s h i t l e s s.

    it will be ok.

    Some people wont like you no matter what you do, other will accept you for who you are, even if you might seem a little 'odd'.
    kyaaa im the same way D:

    its sucks, but what i do i kinda dissassociate xD!

    not that good but hey, i just think alrighty i gatta get through this, i dont know these people, what am i having for lunch? %26lt;__%26lt;



    xD!

    and thats pretty much what i do. looking back now three years ago during my first job i used to sit and eat lunch by myself ahahhaa i was cool with it at the time and didnt really give xD! and now i guess im the same but i've been able to actually meet people.



    best wishes! and just think positive thoughts

    *salutes

    Is there medication that can substitute for socializing?

    I spend my days studying for 7-8 hours a day and then doing optional research on my material. I've read articles on how the need for socializing is innate or I could go insane, and I don't like socializing or interacting with people at all. Most of my life I've been sheltered and withdrawn from other kids, in order to get top grades. I just don't like people or associating with them. So is there any medication that would substitute for socializing? Sometimes I feel as if I am losing my mind.Is there medication that can substitute for socializing?
    There is no medicine to substitute for socializing.



    Try lab grade ethanol. It will facilitate, rather than substitute for, the process.Is there medication that can substitute for socializing?
    Take some Acid and go on a trip my dude.
    Morphine.
    See a psychiatrist.

    How can I become a better human being in correspondence with anything and everything imaginable?

    I would like to know how I can become a better individual because I want to succeed in so many things but I opine I am having a type of problem that has to do with communicating, interacting with people and being myself. I want to know how to be very productive, please help.How can I become a better human being in correspondence with anything and everything imaginable?
    always look for the good in people ,and do the right thing ,never look at others with judgement on mind ,and always conduct yourself in a respected way don't take notice of gossip nor talk gossip ,in other words hard as they may seem if it doesn't concern you don't get involved , of coarse if you witness an accident or something like that then yes you are involved already ,and most important strive to do the very best in everything you do then You know within yourself that you have done your best,just think before you leap remember better to be seen and not heard sometimesHow can I become a better human being in correspondence with anything and everything imaginable?
    Go see a therapist.
    it all start with the right thinking process, if you doubt you can succeed you won't succeed. you need to get the movie called the secret, it will teach you what you want to know

    How can I help social anxiety when I am too afraid to see a psychiatrist or counselor?

    I can't explain it even though I know I have problems interacting with people and it ruins my life and the possibility for meaningful relationships I can't bring myself to see a doctor because the thought of having to confront a person face to face and talk about my problems is too overwhelming to go through with. I don't know what do do. The problem itself prevents me from finding a solution.



    Has anyone else had a similar problem?How can I help social anxiety when I am too afraid to see a psychiatrist or counselor?
    I can relate to how your feel. I suffer from social anxiety and avoid going to the doctor b/c of it. I find a lot of support online, as it offers the barrier I need to be able to talk to people. Maybe you could find a pen pal that will encourage you. There are a few places that have this online.



    I also plan on going to psychiatrist in the next month or so. I think the solution is to just jump in. I not only feel anxious talking to someone face to face, but calling on the phone. In this instance I usually have someone do it for me, and I am not in the room. Perhaps someone could make an appointment for you?



    I also like to feel in control on the situation. I know that even if I make an appointment I can still cancel. And even if I go, I can still leave anytime I want. I also know that I don't have to say anything, and that any psychiatrist I go to should understand my apprehension about speaking.



    It is all about baby steps to get where you want to go. Maybe try just making the appointment(and canceling). Then try going, but telling the doctor you may not stay the whole time. Then try staying, and maybe talking.



    Social anxiety is a hard thing to deal with, but there is always a solution.How can I help social anxiety when I am too afraid to see a psychiatrist or counselor?
    I was afraid of it, too. You have to just make yourself go and do it, and it should get easier with time because you'll get to know the doctor better. They'll probably do whatever they can to make you feel comfortable. I know what you mean, though. I don't know the extent of your anxiety, but I know that one of the things I'm most afraid of is talking on the phone. And, obviously, you have to set up the appointment on the phone and sh*t like that...So, yeah. It was hell.
    oh, i empathize with you there. i used to be painfully, PAINFULLY socially anxious. i thought it would be embarrassing to go to a therapist, but it got so fed up with my anxiety holding me back from what i wanted to do, that i got over it and went! i've been going for about 10 months, and it's helped SO MUCH. i have a boyfriend, and many more friends, and it's so much easier to talk to people in general! i'd say definitely go for it. it's completely worth it. good luck!!!
    How about typing up everything you can think of that the dr will need to know about you, and bring that with you to your first appt? And start the letter with an explanation of how uncomfortable it is for you to talk face to face about your problems. Maybe you can even ask that the dr's chair and your chair are not facing each other. Please don't let your anxiety keep you from going. After the first visit it gets easier, believe me.
    It's ironic that just by playing 'games' you can make much more progress with social discomfort and shyness than by taking the issue so ';seriously. But it's absolutely true. Taking a more lighthearted approach always works better in these situations, as you will discover.



    This really works. We got it for our teenager 3 months ago and it has taken a shy teenage boy who rarely wanted to interact with anyone to one of the most outgoing fun loving kids I know. As a Dad I just can't tsay enough, I think it really saved him.
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