Friday, November 19, 2010

I am too calm.i am not at all jovial.i feel uncomfortable when i talk to people.i feel depressed?

i have never felt that there is any positive feeling in being jolly.its not that i want to be jolly and dont know how to be jolly but i never feel like i want to be jovial.i laugh very scarcely and even when i listen to a good joke i dont laugh (i come to know thats a good joke by looking at others laughing).i occasionally feel very energetic and then immediately get extremely depressed.i just dont want to interact with people.i never talk to girls.i am always afraid to talk to them. i think no girl will like me.i dont go out and play.this is too because i am afraid.i think i am too ugly.i cant see people in their eyes and talk.my father is a very calm person and shy.i think i have inherited these qualities from him.i am suffering because of that.so i have decided not to marry and not to have kids so that i can at least save them from suffering like me.and also the girl i married would hate me for these qualities.and i would just ruin my entire life and her life too.i feel i am odd.i am even not sure if there is any problem with me.WHAT IS THIS. HELP ME OUT.I am too calm.i am not at all jovial.i feel uncomfortable when i talk to people.i feel depressed?
Just relax honey.

Nobody are ugly by looks. Beauty comes from the heart.

Be confident. Settle down in your life. Don't hate the body which is given by the god. You should start loving your body - everyone will start loving too. Be with a smile on your face. It gives you confident and it attracts people towards you. Smile to everyone - even to strangers. Say hi. You will get so many hi 's back. If you are not settled down. Try to settle down first. Watch comedy films or scenes and read comedy books. Life is too short - try to be happy and make others happy. Marry a girl - dont be lonely. Have kids soon. It will change your life. Not everyone is a handsome or beauty.

If god lacks something in you - he fills it with someother thing.

Are you in contact with all your friends? Talk to them. Try to contact the old childhood friends who are not in touch. Write a long mail or talk to them.





Not every girl wishes for handsome guys. Select a girl who gives importance to your heart than your looks.



If you dont beleive me, Ask your mom - '; Mom, am I looking handsome or ugly? '; Deffinitly she says you are the most handsome person in this world.



Smile and cheer up.I am too calm.i am not at all jovial.i feel uncomfortable when i talk to people.i feel depressed?
listen brother, u need to consut the doctor. i think u r suffering from depression. depression can be cured by taking proper medicine. my friend was also suffering from this, after taking medicine he is okay now. nothing to worry about.
Hmm, What do I say? The people below me have put it very nicely. Listen to them:)
You are not the only person that feels this way. My father is a hermit, he doesnt socialise, and he's very shy, and I picked up those traits from him. I hated myself for years because of this, and because I believed it led to my lack of social skills and I never wanted to socialise because I was not confident and because I'm not a funny person. Im a shy and quiet person. I lacked self confidence and thought I was ugly and fat and blah blah blah. Then I met my husband, and he didn't care about any of those things and just started to love me for the way I was, despite all my (self-perceived) weaknesses. And then because of that I started to open up and be more confident of myself because of that enabling love. Then we got married, and we just had our first child. Surprisingly although my son is like me, he is very loud and outgoing and very much a people person.



In short, please don't worry about these things, just try and focus on positive and happy things, and do things that you enjoy and have a happy life, you will meet someone who will love you exactly the way you are, and then you will get to know the person that you really are inside, the person you can be, and you can be HAPPY!!!
hi i am a quiet and shy person myself. i never wanted to interact with people and studying in a girl's school, i used to be sared while talking to a guy. i used to think i am ugly and nobody likes me. and the worst i had a sad face. whenever my mom came in the room and saw me watching tv, she used to ask me, ';why are you crying?'; when i had my usual expression ( still have a sad face)



but gradually instead of just standing with people i started observing them. and then i started talking to the people i liked (well just a little bit of talking) and guess what, gradually i opened up and made some really great friends. then i realised they never had an opinion about me until i created it before them. they see me the way i see myself. my friends had guy friends and i never did. i used to think they will never like me but now i realise what i used to think was nonsense. i have a bf and he loves me for what i am. you will find that special someone too and then you can get married. doesn't your mom love your dad?and the kids, you can help them deal with the shyness because you've been through it all.



try to think positive about yourself. i know its difficult but whenever you get a negative thought just stop it and start thinking positive. write down the good qualities in yourself and read it everyday before going to bed. i did this and it helped me. try to know yourself, your interests and the things that make you happy. if you want to play. go out. don't think about other people. do the stuff you like. you don't need to wait for somebody else's opinion. many times somebody cracks a joke, i don't find it funny, that doesn't mean there is something wrong with me. it means the joke wasn't good enough to make me laugh.



most girls like guys if they have a good moral character. they don't judge guys on the basis of their shyness (im a girl, believe me). and some girls like quiet guys.



just ask this to yourself, ';what are you afraid of?'; are you afraid of being yourself? DON'T BE. everybody s different and have their own good and weak points.

remember: NOBODY' S PERFECT even when they show that they are.



hope i helped :)
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