I have problem interacting with people socially. Please help!!!!!!!?

I am a 24 year old male i m in colege and find it awkward in social situations where there is a group of people hanging around informally(like college). I don't even have friends from college. In these situations i start feeling dazed, my mind stops woking and i feel that i don't have anything to talk abt. How can i feel enthusiastic in such situations and set the ball roling and also may be have a control over the conversation. Any additional and vital info wud be appreciated. Thanx in advance for ur help.I have problem interacting with people socially. Please help!!!!!!!?
Well, this is a good step~!I have problem interacting with people socially. Please help!!!!!!!?
Dude I here ya I'm 37 and just started back in school It isn't you people are just weird. Hang in there you will find your (I can't belive I'm going to use this word) click.
Simply by getting others to talk about their favorite subject, themselves. Asking questions without going over board, like you are interrogating them. You have to have a common core of experience, if most are interested in college sports, it might help if you got smart on it. Go a game even if you aren't really into it. Good listeners are always welcomed at parties. At first you might feel like a phony pretending to be interested, but you might be surprised you actually get interested in something you wouldn't have normally tried (like a place to eat, sports, a type of music). Chow
Socialize with the people that you have in common with, because it would be easy for you to pick a topic in which you and your friends can share. It is a matter of an interest. For example if your mind is excellent in Math, find those who also have similar interest. Once you have learn to master the sociability, you'll be able to swing your interest in any direction you wish!



Also take an interest in tutoring someone, this will give you the opportunity to verbalize yourself with others and,if you can tutor more than one at the same time your ability and confidence will help you. Your students would always appreciate you on campus and can introduce to others to where you'll find more friends to meet. Good luck.



God Bless
First you need to decide why you are there...in college...to begin with. Will it be rewarding? Will college get you everything you need to prepare you for the business world?



If you can answer these questions truthfully to yourself, then you will understand what college is all about.



Some use college as a stepping stone...to meet and intermingle with people and to make lasting connections which will help them succeed in a fast paced world.



Others see college as a free-for-all to just ';hang'; and party with ';friends';.



So, first understand what your purpose is for being there, and then decide if it's for you.



Remember, Bill Gates dropped out of college.



College is not the end all or the only means by which you can go out and earn a living.



If you find the mingling there boring, like I once did, then you may need to look elsewhere, perhaps another college, or maybe a good private school that would prepare you for a good profession.



I can relate to how you feel in that setting. It may not be your cup of tea. You need to decide what interests you, and then decide if that's what you want to build your future around.



College just for the sake of hanging around is not what will make you a well rounded person.



I've been there before, and felt lost in a college setting like yourself. It is far removed from the business world that something should be done about fine tuning it to coincide with what business is about.



Nobody I remember in my college days ever discussed earning a living. In these times, that should be foremost on everyone's mind.
sounds like you could be suffering from a case of social anxiety disorder. the way to deal with it is exposure therapy. ( expose yourself to the uncomfortable situation over and over until you are comfortable) , so basically try to spend MORE time in these akward situations.
I used to be like this and sometimes still am. When you find yourself in these situations, just listen to what the others are saying and respond with the first thing that comes to mind (make sure it's appropriate of course!) Or put out a topic of your own for discussion. I'm done with college but I can remember situations where I was in a group and felt that they had more clever things to say that what I could come up with. One important thing is not to over-think what you want to say. I used to do this and it just makes you feel more tense and when you finally say something it sounds unnatural. Also, you could spend so much time thinking that everyone else is already on a different topic; you'll have to catch up, and if you don't, then you'll be sitting there the whole time having said nothing and feeling more awkward. So just respond naturally and remember that you have something worth saying. Don't worry about what others will think of what you say because each is entitled to their own opinion. It takes time and effort to be social. Just be patient.