I am too calm.....i am not at all jovial...i feel uncomfortable when i talk to people.....i feel depressed...?

i have never felt that there is any positive feeling in being jolly......its not that i want to be jolly and dont know how to be jolly but i never feel like i want to be jovial......i laugh very scarcely and even when i listen to a good joke i dont laugh (i come to know thats a good joke by looking at others laughing).i occasionally feel very energetic and then immediately get extremely depressed.....i just dont want to interact with people.......i never talk to girls.......i am always afraid to talk to them........ i think no girl will like me.....i dont go out and play...this is too because i am afraid......i think i am too ugly.....i cant see people in their eyes and talk......my father is a very calm person and shy.....i think i have inherited these qualities from him.....i am suffering because of that......so i have decided not to marry and not to have kids so that i can at least save them from suffering like me......and also the girl i married would hate me for these qualities......and i would just ruin my entire life and her life too.....i feel i am odd...i am even not sure if there is any problem with me....WHAT IS THIS..... HELP ME OUT....I am too calm.....i am not at all jovial...i feel uncomfortable when i talk to people.....i feel depressed...?
I guess this is a phase everyone goes through.....What you need right now is feel silly...i suggest fall in love !!!!! it'll make you feel silly enough to laugh and giggle and do all that you've been missing !!!I am too calm.....i am not at all jovial...i feel uncomfortable when i talk to people.....i feel depressed...?
Go see a therapist from the sound of your mood swings you may be bi-polar.
That's depression bra. It's a chemical imbalance that you have in your body. There is lots of good medication now that helps boost your energy to stay constant throughout the day and some of my friends are using it, and it helps out a lot. Go to a doctor and talk to him/her and get that energy back up and stable!

Even if you don't have suicidal thoughts or feel like you're always gunna be taken down, it still could be depression. It's not a bad thing, it's just a problem for people if they stay on that roller coaster too long!

Good Luck
Counseling would help... from a professional, not on line. Seems like the things you have said, the things you tell yourself, are things you need to iron out with a councelor who should tell you that you are controlling the way you act and feel based on parental expectations.



You need to travel outside the US, and start experiencing life. Travel will really help change you and the way you see the world.
You said it yourself, you suffer from severe depression. You need to stop talking about yourself in such a negative fashion. Find something positive about yourself, and run with it. I felt similar to you most of my life, and had many of the same symptoms it is definitely depression and you need to seek some help. I still don't laugh at most jokes, but I am much happier a person. Your thoughts control your emotions, so if you think negatively so you will have negative emotions.
there is always a place for people of your disposition,ever read any edgar allen Poe:s books?some times happiness is like a bolt of lightning from a clear sky,you never know when or where it might strike,but its worth hanging around to find out.next time try to list some negative aspect to your personality,dont just blind us with the good stuff
here is a hint...go talk to the girls. confront your irrational fears and watch them disappear. Go enjoy your life and stop being afraid of every little thing. You are creating a self full filling prophecy. Don't worry about marriage, try dating first. Don't worry about a relationship, just have fun first with another person. Ask people to go do something you enjoy doing...bowling, fishing, concerts...whatever, people want to be active just like you want to be active. Try new things.
Go face your fears. They'll melt away so you can be who you want to become. You don't have to be like your father. Live your life the way you want to.



Also, this song always makes me smile when im depressed:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DrhqXMEnD鈥?/a>