i don't have friends or people that i'm associated with.
i'm extremely independent but want affection from friends and family. does anyone know how to break out of my shy shell? please help me i don't know what else to do or who else to ask for help. i want to interact with people in college like everyone else.Is there any possible way to cheer someone up when they feel in the dumps and suicidal?
My dad committed suicide when I was 6. My stepdaughter attempted suicide 1 year ago. My granddaughter contemplated it this week.
Suicide is done by people who have lost hope. Give them the true hope from Jehovah. The above 3 did not grasp onto that hope. I am now 57, and no matter how bad things had gotten I had (and still have) hope.Is there any possible way to cheer someone up when they feel in the dumps and suicidal?
You're question and description dont match up? lol. I dont think you can just 'cheer up' the suicidal. Like....oh i want to off myself....'want to get ice cream?......oh i love ice cream, now i dont feel like killing myself.
It's okay, I have the shy shell thing too. :]
You should at least try to talk to somebody like a family friend or a group of relatives. Don't be afraid to speak out and talk about something. If nobody is starting the conversation, You should at least try to bring up a topic and not be afraid to talk to people. That's your problem, you don't even talk that much and you're a really shy person and sometimes its okay to be shy. That's what my momma told me :]
Well, how old are you? If you are going to go off to college, you should prepare yourself to meet new friends. And since it is summer right now, its the best time to go out there and meet new people! Check local activites, groups, clubs, events. Guitar lession, a painting studio, art class, something that meets on a regular basis. There you can meet new people and learn a new skill as well. To mingle more with your family, try to set up like days where you all go do something together: theme park, beach, picnic, swimming, something like that. Keep it active and fun! I am going to go into college this comming fall, so I know what you are feeling right now being worried. But you have to break out of that shell! Its for the best. You want to live life! Honestly, you will have such a better experience of college if you take this summer to be your goal to becomming less shy. actually...not shy at all.
do something WAY out of your comfort zone! If you want to get more friends, and stop being shy, you will be able to push yourself to get active and meet new people!
Hope all goes well, if you need any more help just let me know
Well...i'm the same like you.I have friends but they didn't really mind me at all.So i began to avoid them (which i never enjoy doing).I'd love to change as i'm starting college in a couple of months.
But what i've been doing lately is select a few favourite friends,go hang around with them at their house or movies or txt them...which has been working out to certain extent....but i'd love to know if there are any ways to socialize better.
Reach out to those whom you can help. In doing so, you will meet others who are empathetic. . .
EMPATHY---Key to Kindness %26amp; Compassion
- What IS Empathy - Scriptural Examples of Empathy
%26gt; How to Cultivate Empathy
- Empathy Helps in Christian Activities
- Cultivate Fellow Feeling
http://watchtower.org/e/20020415/article鈥?/a>
When we change our focus to include the needs of others, %26amp;, get involved with them, we don't have as much time or energy to expend on worry . . .
';How Can I Help Those in Need?';
- You Can Help
%26gt; Why Learn to Give?
- Who Can I Help, %26amp; How?
http://watchtower.org/e/200608a/article_鈥?/a>
Those who become suicidal are often too focussed on their own *feelings* of inadequacies %26amp; lack of self-worth---feelings are *not* facts, %26amp; are often molded by the ways others treated us in our early years. We don't have to let their 'definition' of our worth to be our own!
';What Is Your Life Worth?'; :
- Life--Precious or Cheap?
- How Precious Your Life Is!
http://watchtower.org/e/20050201/article鈥?/a>
Young People Ask: ';Why Not Just End It All?';
- Behind the Despair - No Way Out?
- Things Change - The Value of Prayer
%26gt; When the Problem Is Health Related
http://watchtower.org/e/200805c/article_鈥?/a>
You Can Find Help
http://watchtower.org/e/20011022/article鈥?/a>
How to Find Real Happiness
%26gt; Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep your Life Simple
%26gt; Happiness and Self-Worth
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
http://watchtower.org/e/20010301/article鈥?/a>
Why Care About Spiritual Things? :
- Spirituality and Your Well-Being---A Positive Link!
http://watchtower.org/e/20040201/article鈥?/a>
you just gotta force yourself to talk to people in college, or join something, or take a ';fun'; class. Most people will be nice. Don't feel bad if you don't love college 'cause it can suck sometimes.
Sweetie everyone feels like you do even if they have many friends.
Make yourself approachable. Smile at everyone and they will come to you. When you meet them do not talk about your problems. Talk about generic things. Ask them questions about their life.
Be sweet, helpful and knowledgeable.
just talk to me, i can make anyone feel better
i have been there and am still in a ';cutting/suicidal'; state of mind however as somebody who has and is experiencing those feelings, I don't believe that there is any way to 'force' socialization or happiness, all of those 'feel good' emotions will eventually find their way to you.... you cannot go searching for them or try to 'push' them, ..... wait it out, deal with whatever you are feeling in whatever way you are comfortable and eventually happiness and contentness will find and FORCE itself upon you..... just try to remember that there are always going to be people worse off than you emotionally and all other ways......
alot of people are like that.
join a group/sport with people that share the same intrest so you have something to talk about.
and honestly i belive the depression is a state of mind you put yourself in, so you can take yourself out.
theres always brighter sides to everything.
Hi!
First let me start by saying that I have bipolar disorder (manic depression).
What you have may just be ordinary shyness, but it could be something called social anxiety disorder (there are meds for that). There is also something called agoraphobia which is a fear of leaving your house or going anywhere, doing anything.
If you absolutely cannot talk to others, you probably need at least talk therapy from a professional or at least someone who knows how this is.
Do you have contact with people in other ways? You may feel comfortable here, but do you have penpals or email pals? Talk on the phone to others? Talk on messenger programs to others.
If you want to talk, my email and yahoo IM are on my profile so you can contact me. I also talk on the phone to some penpals and things.
I hope you can get appropriate help.
Love and hugs,
Debbie
Your wanting for affection does not have to compromise your independence, Its great that you are independent but we are social beings and need some sort of emotional connection. You need to examine yourself and find out why are you so shy. Is it that your insecure about something (your body, looks). One of the best ways to overcome shyness is to find people that enjoy the same things you do..maybe like a club or a society. It might help to clarify your question..send me a message when u do.
join some kind of activity, or go to church the is a lot of good people to meet there, if you shy or not , but you will have to approach people and start talking, you wont be able to have friends if you don'tt talk to anybody then nobody will talk to you, i went through a stage like that right after i graduated from highschool. u have to get out and meet people they will not come to you
Everyone is scared sometimes but the best way is to join something that you like so if you like sports join one and you can find a friend that likes what you like or instead of them walking up to you to talk how bout you come up to them.
first u have to start off with one friend if your lucky you'll find more but ur first friend has to be outgoing someone who will introduce u to new people
Really? You poor thing. just remember in college thats like 4 years of partying. do you have a hobby? you usually meet friends with your hobbies. just remember that you can always change yourself. i went to my local church and now i have like 7 more friends ( that are like 4 years older than me )
sex xD
Some time people can be cruel, ignore them, you can feel when a person is nice. Just speak to them and they will start talking and before you know it they telling you there life history. All they doing is making up a funny story just to make you glad.Laugh is a good sign for happiness. Try it, you feel better when you make some one glad.
talk to someone who is also in a shy shell. it's easier to understand each other
Yes let them know you are there for them at any geven time day or night you are there best friend thats not going to let them down %26amp; dont want them to do it on you either.
You could flash them!
You should try to associate with one person at a time. Try to warm up with them first, then move into the scary big groups when you feel you know those people better. Try to find any connection possible to talk to them and just progress through the conversation. Sometimes it'll get a little awkward of course, but you have to keep asking questions until the person seems really into the conversation or until it seems like you're getting nowhere. Don't try to overwhelm yourself by putting yourself in big groups all the time without really feeling comfortable with all the people, it won't speed up your outgoing-ness.
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