Dark, dark sunglasses and a friendly smile.How the heck do you get over social anxiaty?
Being social is very rewarding, and some advice if you try to talk to random people. . . people LOVE to talk about themselves. . .
be yourself
If you like to be quite, just be quiet
Not everybody have to talk all the time
just be natural
Well, if you are talking about a social anxiety disorder/social phobia, the best thing to do would be to talk to a psychologist about it. They could help find methods of getting you past it and hopefully putting the disorder into remission. I myself had social anxiety disorder, along with slight agoraphobia (because of the panic attacks I had when being around larger crowds). I saw a psychologist for a while, and she taught me some breathing exercises to help me relax when I felt a panic attack coming on. She also helped to get me on Paxil (she couldn't write out a perscription herself since she wasn't a psychiatrist), which worked wonders. My disorder has remitted, and I no longer need medications. So I would strongly recommend that you talk to a councelor or a psychologist if you think your anxiety is a problem and is interfering with any aspect of your life.
you need to realize that Jesus Christ loves you and accepts you.If you can be accepted by someone as great as he,and your focus is pleasing your God first and fore most,does it really matter if another human being does not accept you,when you realize Jesus accepts you just as I am.you will find your self worth,and you will quit doubting yourself,you will know you are Worthy of social acceptance,
1) START SIMPLE. Say ';Hi';, ';Thank you';, or ';Good Morning,'; to every ';service'; person you meet: waiter, bus driver, mailman, cashier, etc. + all your neighbors. Remember to make eye contact %26amp; a friendly smile!!!!!!! (Even a ';shy'; smile is OK, if you can't do a happy one yet)
When you can do this comfortably %26amp; all the time, then you can add a sentence or question: ';You look a little tired today. Is everything OK?'; (for someone you see often). ';That's a really beautiful shirt.'; (It has to be true, and you have to sound like you mean it. If they are happy you said it, you can ask, ';Where did you get it?'; If there is little positive reaction, let it go.) Stick with compliments, caring questions, or perhaps job-related questions (';How often do you change the menu?'; or ';What's the most popular dish?'; at a restaurant.
2) START SMALL. For conversations, start with 1 FRIEND at a time. When you can talk with 1 friend for an hour (that means you also speaking %26amp; not just listening, maybe 50-50).... then, add 1 MORE FRIEND. When you can talk with 2 friends comfortably, then add 1 more, etc......
This may take some time. Give your self some time!
3) LEARN HOW TO ASK GOOD QUESTIONS. Since people like to talk about themselves, learn to ask questions that allow you (or even the other person) to understand more about them. Remember, for every question, there is an answer. And for every answer, there is a follow-up question. If you can't think of a question, it's because you didn't discover it yet. This takes practice.
4) LEARN MORE PSYCHOLOGY %26amp; HOW TO INCREASE YOUR EQ. This means, studying other people more. Anxious people focus on themselves; one way to feel less anxious, is to focus your attention on other people. Try to understand them, what they are feeling, and offer either agreement, empathy, support, encouragement, comfort... it depends on what they want.... you'll have to sharpen your 6th sense. Most people are unhappy about something (or many things) in their lives. When you truly see %26amp; realize this more %26amp; more, you will feel less anxious about your self.
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