I'm a college student not sure of my major patrly because I'm not sure its the right one for me. I am a type who is multifaceted. i planned to be a College Prof. and when I talked to my current professors, they told me although the job is great, it's a hard road on the way to getting a Master's or a Doc. degree. I feel passionate about the conection I feel when i interact with people on an intellectual level, whether I am listening or talking. Now, on the other hand, my mother wants me to bea doctor. She says I'll always have a job, and I wil be independent. The surplusses ofbeing a doctor is 1)the money 2)job security 3)helping ppl. I can do it, but I'm wondering..If I'm not passionate about something now,is there a chance I can learn to love it in the future? Will the money make anything better? I know money isnt everything, but barely surviving is a lot worse. My main perception of doctors are helpers of ppl. College Profs. tell me about ur job experiences.How do I pick the right major? College Professors and Doctors(or pre students) read!?
Being retired from 31 years of college teaching, I might have a thought or two on the subject of majors and of teaching college.
First, don't kid yourself about the money in being an M.D. You'll leave medical school for a couple years of poorly paid interning, and saddled with large student loans. Once you have a practice or residency, you'll find that insurance premiums are taking a significant fraction of your income--actually worse than taxes.
But you cannot just say, I like to operate on an intellectual level. History you say? Do you mean American? Modern European? Medieval? Ancient? Nonwestern? Are you prepared for the languages each of these requires for an advanced degree? An M.D.? Research, hospital, private practice, a specialty? Each has different degrees of job security, income, and working with the public. Are you prepared to work with a public that includes people who will actively ignore your advice? How do you feel about treating a child you know will die soon?
I'm throwing all these questions out because you need to give this far more serious thought than I believe you have done. My considered opinion (and this is one I've given dozens of times over the years to students similar to yourself) is to take a fairly general major now--say something like anthropology. Medical schools do not expect all applicants to have majored in human anatomy (especially since on the college level it isn't a major LOL), so your options will remain open. Take a wide range of courses in different areas. Get involved in extracurricular activities. I had two friends in my undergraduate days who worked on the school radio station, and went on into the broadcast industry, even though when they started college neither had any intention of doing that.
And show my advice to your mother!!How do I pick the right major? College Professors and Doctors(or pre students) read!?
I'm an RN who works around doctors all the time. Doctors get calls in the middle of the night on a regular basis, they are always working. They work all week, seeing patients in their office, then they have to visit their clients in the hospital after that. Then they are on call on the weekend and they get calls, they gotta even take their cells phones with them to church. They don't have alot of free time at all, mainly just to sleep.
Their jobs are so demanding that their family life suffers. They have beautiful homes but they are rarely there. They have lots of money, but they don't have time to go out and spend it. They don't have much time to enjoy themselves. Plus, also remember the extremely high malpractice insurance they are required to pay and chances of getting sued.
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Is it ok to be a 23 year old virgin?
I have aspergers syndrome, this makes it hard for me to interact with people. I look like a normal guy, and ive come a very long way since i was a kid. Most people cant even tell that im not normal. Just when it comes to intimacy, im just so terrified. I wish that normal people would understand how hard it is. Im not giving up... not even close, but what will a girl think when she learns that im a virgin?Is it ok to be a 23 year old virgin?
omg there is NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING A VIRGIN, that's a GOOD thing
i RESPECT that.Is it ok to be a 23 year old virgin?
...id say it's acceptable...
If she's a decent human being who cares about you, she won't mind at all.
=]
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin.
it's completely ok to be a virgin.. at any age, actually.
yes it is ok to be a virgin at age 23. don't EVER give up. it'll happen just be patient.
Nothing wrong with that, at all. And if the girl is understanding and wanting of you she won't care either.
omg there is NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING A VIRGIN, that's a GOOD thing
i RESPECT that.Is it ok to be a 23 year old virgin?
...id say it's acceptable...
If she's a decent human being who cares about you, she won't mind at all.
=]
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin.
it's completely ok to be a virgin.. at any age, actually.
yes it is ok to be a virgin at age 23. don't EVER give up. it'll happen just be patient.
Nothing wrong with that, at all. And if the girl is understanding and wanting of you she won't care either.
I'm scared to play / interact with other people's children?
When I met the children of either an associate, co-worker or even a close friend for the first time, I purposely don't talk or play with them for two reasons.
1) I'm afraid the kid is not going to like me
2) I'm scared I'm going to accidently hurt or upset the child and their parent is going to get upset at me.
It's totally irrational, especially since I teach second grade. I'm nice to my students and I joke around with them and stuff, but they make me kind of uncomfortable too.
Whenever one of them runs into me at the store with their parents, I always feel weird and wish they hadn't seen me.
What's wrong with me? How do I fix it?I'm scared to play / interact with other people's children?
If I were you I'd relax a bit and not worry about what other people think. There's nothing wrong with you. If you want you could check out a good counselor to work through your anxiety.I'm scared to play / interact with other people's children?
I don't think there's anything wrong with you except maybe you might be a little too worried about what people think of you.
Kids are kids. If they don't like you, then guess what--in 10 minutes they probably will like you again if you say something funny or give them candy. I mean, it's not like you're trying to impress the king or anything.
I would say just relax when you are around kids. Avoiding talking and interacting with your friends or co-workers kids might do just as much harm as interacting with them and making them upset.
1) I'm afraid the kid is not going to like me
2) I'm scared I'm going to accidently hurt or upset the child and their parent is going to get upset at me.
It's totally irrational, especially since I teach second grade. I'm nice to my students and I joke around with them and stuff, but they make me kind of uncomfortable too.
Whenever one of them runs into me at the store with their parents, I always feel weird and wish they hadn't seen me.
What's wrong with me? How do I fix it?I'm scared to play / interact with other people's children?
If I were you I'd relax a bit and not worry about what other people think. There's nothing wrong with you. If you want you could check out a good counselor to work through your anxiety.I'm scared to play / interact with other people's children?
I don't think there's anything wrong with you except maybe you might be a little too worried about what people think of you.
Kids are kids. If they don't like you, then guess what--in 10 minutes they probably will like you again if you say something funny or give them candy. I mean, it's not like you're trying to impress the king or anything.
I would say just relax when you are around kids. Avoiding talking and interacting with your friends or co-workers kids might do just as much harm as interacting with them and making them upset.
How can i get rid of IMVU for good?
i recently downloaded IMVU which is kinda like club penguin or something where you interact with people. and it's free so i wanted to try it and i realized its rrly inappropriate and it keeps popping up on my computer everytime i log on and i have to just keep logging off and logging off how can i get rid of it for good?How can i get rid of IMVU for good?
You have to uninstall it from your computer. It will continue to pop up and run in the background unless you remove it completely.fish dating to find
You have to uninstall it from your computer. It will continue to pop up and run in the background unless you remove it completely.
How do you interact with other people?
I feel that, in America, it is impossible to share emotions with another human being. What has come of this country? Everyone has an agenda, and a small group of acquaintances. We are all competitors, so we shouldn't make any contact with each other. I have no friends. I spend all day listening to SOAD, Korn, and Slipknot. I can't focus on my schoolwork. I view pornography on a regular basis. I think that I have social phobia. I stay up all night and sleep during the day and miss classes. I don't want to die a premature death. I don't want to be sad. I can't understand why everything in this world is so unfair, it's all luck and randomness. What a sick joke life is.How do you interact with other people?
make a facebook and add ppl and talk to them its rly easy and fun or just go to a teen club and im sure some girl would dance with you. Just put teen clubs in google and put ur city and it should tell u alll the closest ones it'll help i swear and dont think its akward cuz its not get out there and have fun dont be a push over and cry all day go do it plus even if u do smthg akward at the club who gives a **** its not like anyone knows u there :)How do you interact with other people?
Having exchange students in my school I have personally witnessed a lot of this. A lot of the time the new comer tries to boast their skills and experiences with co-workers / students. They quickly became frustrating unfortunately. I find that we Canadians don鈥檛 enjoy bragging and usually only share stories if it has an element of humor. Try going out and being almost entirely selfless when the option arises. For instances a bunch of students mention going out for a drink, go out and have a few drinks and buy them a round they鈥檒l appreciate it. Just remember you don鈥檛 want to come across as intrusive. It a tough work and it takes a lot of social adapting but once you get the hang of it and have a start it鈥檒l be much smoother. Just remember to go out, be kind / generous and polite it鈥檒l help.
I have been through that myself. But let me tell you, you're not the only one. Most people suffer of this or have been through this at one point or another. You are a step ahead because you've realized it is happening, there are others you have realized why. It is NOT because of you.
Open up you eyes, there are people your age who are isolated or lonely too, and they are looking for friends. You need friends.
And you are so right life is a sick joke, but not because of life itself rather than the way we live it or have been forced to live it.
If you try to be a little more practical and at least sleep at night so you won't miss classes and study so you get at least passing grades that will at give you the opportunity to function in this world as the world would accept you, but also you will get the chance to do the things you want for yourself. The way you are dealing with it leads no where. You sound like a thinking person, not many people can do that, you know.
I have 50% of those thing in common with you. I dont ever think about death though.
Life is a ***** and in order to beat it you just dont have to care because like Rocky said, the thing that will hit you the hardest in life is LIFE. FU life!
You sound like you have an idea of how the world should work. Unfortunately, we were not given a plan from anyone, or a direction. We have simply made the best we could. It is true that this world we have made is far from perfect.
That being said, I understand your overwhelming frustration. I know you wrote this message trying to communicate your feelings. Perhaps it was a little crass, but it is how you felt, which is fine. I feel like I may be able to give you a tip or two if you would like to listen.
First, I am having trouble figuring out what you want. What is it that you are trying to achieve that you are unable to? Frustration appears when we are trying to do something, and other forces interfere. So obviously, you have something you are trying to gain, which I am unsure.
So when you can define what you are trying to gain, we can make steps in the right direction. We can start to map out a plan of how to obtain it. Now, obviously, some goals can be quite lofty. So I suggest that you make your goals as tangible as possible. It is sometimes pretty difficult to make this first step. You have to lay it all on the line and find out what you are really after so you can figure out how to get their.
If you do not have a good idea of what you are trying to achieve then it makes getting their impossible, which will lead to immense frustration. I know you are already frustrated enough.
Final notes: Avoid making a goal like this- ';I want to be happier.'; Instead make one like, ';I want to do things that I believe make one less depressed,'; for example. Make lists of things that you think people do that fall into this category, then figure out what steps you need to take.
That's the bottom line right there. It's a hard one to take in, but all changes start with you. I know it sucks that the world feels so sick and we must adjust ourselves to live in it. But Adaptation is a hallmark of humanity, is it not? I know you have the ability and power to see this through.
I have a problem too, is like yours but I lived in another world. Yes people are unfair but they again people are generally and idealistically evil. But you should stop and analyze things, if you were actually able to have a rally high point of view and see everything from above you would find out that things are not random, it is everyones decisions that shape the time line, and every decision we make affects those around the person. There are some decisions strong enough to actually have a big influence in existence.As yourself this questions
What makes you happy?
What angers you
Whose pain makes you cry
Whose success do you want to see
What do you love doing?
Right before I was about to give up, I found anime, and from there my whole world changed, now I draw and I feel so at peace. I found the joy of learning things, discovering new things, learning how to do things with my hands. Rockets, play doh, donuts
People are rotten and people suck. but it only happens because they forgot how to love and how to help. is a little hard to describe but if you are true to love you CAN affect them, ts the rule of equal trade.
make a facebook and add ppl and talk to them its rly easy and fun or just go to a teen club and im sure some girl would dance with you. Just put teen clubs in google and put ur city and it should tell u alll the closest ones it'll help i swear and dont think its akward cuz its not get out there and have fun dont be a push over and cry all day go do it plus even if u do smthg akward at the club who gives a **** its not like anyone knows u there :)How do you interact with other people?
Having exchange students in my school I have personally witnessed a lot of this. A lot of the time the new comer tries to boast their skills and experiences with co-workers / students. They quickly became frustrating unfortunately. I find that we Canadians don鈥檛 enjoy bragging and usually only share stories if it has an element of humor. Try going out and being almost entirely selfless when the option arises. For instances a bunch of students mention going out for a drink, go out and have a few drinks and buy them a round they鈥檒l appreciate it. Just remember you don鈥檛 want to come across as intrusive. It a tough work and it takes a lot of social adapting but once you get the hang of it and have a start it鈥檒l be much smoother. Just remember to go out, be kind / generous and polite it鈥檒l help.
I have been through that myself. But let me tell you, you're not the only one. Most people suffer of this or have been through this at one point or another. You are a step ahead because you've realized it is happening, there are others you have realized why. It is NOT because of you.
Open up you eyes, there are people your age who are isolated or lonely too, and they are looking for friends. You need friends.
And you are so right life is a sick joke, but not because of life itself rather than the way we live it or have been forced to live it.
If you try to be a little more practical and at least sleep at night so you won't miss classes and study so you get at least passing grades that will at give you the opportunity to function in this world as the world would accept you, but also you will get the chance to do the things you want for yourself. The way you are dealing with it leads no where. You sound like a thinking person, not many people can do that, you know.
I have 50% of those thing in common with you. I dont ever think about death though.
Life is a ***** and in order to beat it you just dont have to care because like Rocky said, the thing that will hit you the hardest in life is LIFE. FU life!
You sound like you have an idea of how the world should work. Unfortunately, we were not given a plan from anyone, or a direction. We have simply made the best we could. It is true that this world we have made is far from perfect.
That being said, I understand your overwhelming frustration. I know you wrote this message trying to communicate your feelings. Perhaps it was a little crass, but it is how you felt, which is fine. I feel like I may be able to give you a tip or two if you would like to listen.
First, I am having trouble figuring out what you want. What is it that you are trying to achieve that you are unable to? Frustration appears when we are trying to do something, and other forces interfere. So obviously, you have something you are trying to gain, which I am unsure.
So when you can define what you are trying to gain, we can make steps in the right direction. We can start to map out a plan of how to obtain it. Now, obviously, some goals can be quite lofty. So I suggest that you make your goals as tangible as possible. It is sometimes pretty difficult to make this first step. You have to lay it all on the line and find out what you are really after so you can figure out how to get their.
If you do not have a good idea of what you are trying to achieve then it makes getting their impossible, which will lead to immense frustration. I know you are already frustrated enough.
Final notes: Avoid making a goal like this- ';I want to be happier.'; Instead make one like, ';I want to do things that I believe make one less depressed,'; for example. Make lists of things that you think people do that fall into this category, then figure out what steps you need to take.
That's the bottom line right there. It's a hard one to take in, but all changes start with you. I know it sucks that the world feels so sick and we must adjust ourselves to live in it. But Adaptation is a hallmark of humanity, is it not? I know you have the ability and power to see this through.
I have a problem too, is like yours but I lived in another world. Yes people are unfair but they again people are generally and idealistically evil. But you should stop and analyze things, if you were actually able to have a rally high point of view and see everything from above you would find out that things are not random, it is everyones decisions that shape the time line, and every decision we make affects those around the person. There are some decisions strong enough to actually have a big influence in existence.As yourself this questions
What makes you happy?
What angers you
Whose pain makes you cry
Whose success do you want to see
What do you love doing?
Right before I was about to give up, I found anime, and from there my whole world changed, now I draw and I feel so at peace. I found the joy of learning things, discovering new things, learning how to do things with my hands. Rockets, play doh, donuts
People are rotten and people suck. but it only happens because they forgot how to love and how to help. is a little hard to describe but if you are true to love you CAN affect them, ts the rule of equal trade.
How to interact with the people those who are hypocrate?
Hi,
Sorry, but you are in a wrong category, which is against community guidlines.
Hope this helps youHow to interact with the people those who are hypocrate?
Do the business you need to do with them and then as little as possible after that- don't count on them to back you up- and it also depends what areas they are hypocritical in- lying and that irritates me the most-there are many many people out there like that- sadly-DHow to interact with the people those who are hypocrate?
If they are people I'm not too close with, I usually take their words as ';I won't take them seriously until they are done';, but of course I play along with them and say ';really?';. I find it better to just play along when interacting with them so I won't offend them. It won't do you any good if you just confront them by saying ';you said you'd do this and that, but you did none of it';. This makes the person look bad in front of everyone and creates yourself a new enemy.
If they are close with you, try to point out that they speak more than they've done, but in a non-offensive way. Presentation is important when critizing people. Hopefully this isn't your case or you should really find other people to be close to.
Sorry, but you are in a wrong category, which is against community guidlines.
Hope this helps youHow to interact with the people those who are hypocrate?
Do the business you need to do with them and then as little as possible after that- don't count on them to back you up- and it also depends what areas they are hypocritical in- lying and that irritates me the most-there are many many people out there like that- sadly-DHow to interact with the people those who are hypocrate?
If they are people I'm not too close with, I usually take their words as ';I won't take them seriously until they are done';, but of course I play along with them and say ';really?';. I find it better to just play along when interacting with them so I won't offend them. It won't do you any good if you just confront them by saying ';you said you'd do this and that, but you did none of it';. This makes the person look bad in front of everyone and creates yourself a new enemy.
If they are close with you, try to point out that they speak more than they've done, but in a non-offensive way. Presentation is important when critizing people. Hopefully this isn't your case or you should really find other people to be close to.
How to make gay friends in Toronto? (no sex involved)?
I am have found that making gay friends in Toronto is pretty hard.
Wondering if there is any way to interact with people and make friends
without them expecting sex from me?
Currently dating a hottie and both of us would like to expand our friends
circle but all what we get is people interested in sex.
Thanks for your time and advice.How to make gay friends in Toronto? (no sex involved)?
Check out ';the519';.
You must know what and where that is, otherwise you have never been to Toronto!
Also there is the ';out and out'; club. It's great, they go to movies, hiking, play cards. Lot of different things to do. It costs something like $30.00 to join.
If you are more into bears then hang out at Timothys coffee shop. The other coffee shops are a little more ';Woodys-trash'; type places.How to make gay friends in Toronto? (no sex involved)?
Try going to a gay bar/club and talking to some friendly faces
a friendly and comfortable environment for Bi,Gay,Lesbian
http://Findbilover.com
Wondering if there is any way to interact with people and make friends
without them expecting sex from me?
Currently dating a hottie and both of us would like to expand our friends
circle but all what we get is people interested in sex.
Thanks for your time and advice.How to make gay friends in Toronto? (no sex involved)?
Check out ';the519';.
You must know what and where that is, otherwise you have never been to Toronto!
Also there is the ';out and out'; club. It's great, they go to movies, hiking, play cards. Lot of different things to do. It costs something like $30.00 to join.
If you are more into bears then hang out at Timothys coffee shop. The other coffee shops are a little more ';Woodys-trash'; type places.How to make gay friends in Toronto? (no sex involved)?
Try going to a gay bar/club and talking to some friendly faces
a friendly and comfortable environment for Bi,Gay,Lesbian
http://Findbilover.com
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